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I have noticed that a few of the new posters have mentioned that their relationships (even long relationships that seemed to be fine) started to get frustrating around the time a child or children were born.  This has been my experience exactly and I am currently grieving for the nuclear family we will never be.  The unpredictability, extra work, organization,etc. that come with having children has pushed my husband's coping skills to the brink which has in turn pushed our marriage to the brink.

Hi! Im a psychology student and there is a boy that i like for three monhts. He is studying psychology too in the same university. He told me he has got adhd when our first date. I didnt know the effects of adhd in relationships. We were fighting a lot and we were so tired of it. So i decided to not to talk anymore and we broke up. But two days later i learned the effects of adhd in relationships. I searched and read the books, forums etc. After i changed my point of view for him I wanted to talk and explain to him this situation.

My next door neighbor has an ADHD son, and from watching how his parents "parent" him, they don't seem to know anything about ADHD. The poor little guy (he's 7 now) gets belted all the time, gets punished every single day, gets yelled at every day, and his younger sister is obviously the "favorite" of the two of them. It's very sad to watch, and I feel SO BAD for this kid. Are there any good books for parenting children with ADHD that I could give them?

My husband and I have been together almost 19 years and just lastnight absolutely fed up I googled "Why wont my husband help me with chores?" I found this forum and everything I read feels like I'm the one that wrote it. I am in tears to know that my ADHD husband is not lazy and a liar and really does forget. I knew he had ADHD and he is on mess but we just had our first child 21 months ago and I guess that is when I stopped being ok with doing everything. Its too hard now and its getting worse. I have contemplated divorce many times these last few years and feel like a nagging fool.

I am new to this site and have been so bashed by my husband's pastor and brother to believe that I am crazy.  We were married a year ago but my ex never moved in. Every time he did he would have an explosion and take whatever he had at my house and leave usually calling police and telling them all sorts of things like I'm dangerous, I had a gun and I was drunk. Fortunately, the police saw that he was the one that was out of control. But his brother told me to stop all the drama and blamed me for his outpatient hospital treatment last year.

I was going to post this as two separate questions, but they really do overlap, so I apologize for the post length.

I stumbled upon this forum last night when I was searching out the terms "leaves garbage on the counter". I hit a new low these past two days because I'm pregnant with my second child and am a stay-at-home parent to a 2 year old and we were down with a horrible stomach virus. My house is in shambles from the past three days of illness. This is a huge road block to me because my brain becomes foggy when my house is a mess and I can't get any administrative work (taxes) done for our business when I can't concentrate.

So I see that there is a slug box and a big majority of the topics are negative venting. I was wondering if there are any positives as well.It's a little discerning to a new comer to see so many discussions on divorce. Has anyone found a way to make it work with their ADHD spouse?As much as we have been through with his drug abuse and our two children, I would hate to think it was all for nothing because his ADHD issues got in the way.

 

I'm so tired of this battle. Husband gets a big project at work and then I am completely ignored and totally forgotten. He will work 12-14 hour days and never send a text I'm left with 2 kids that I homeschool and a baby. Also, I'm a tax accountant and it is tax season. He always gets worse at tax season. And the cherry on top is now that I am sick he is really abrasive and unapproachable. When he is home he complains about everything. I'm tired. Tired just in general and tired of this game.