I was just wondering if ADHD is a condition that is primarily in caucasions, or if it nondiscriminatory when it comes to race, gender etc? There does seem to be a large majority of caucasion people with ADHD, but was just wondering if there are any statistics on this? Does anyone know? Melissa?
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now. He has inattentive ADHD and has a history of verbally abusive relationships. I myself have OCD and have a history of physically abusive relationships. We are a very loving couple and can typically very understanding of each other. Unfortunately, when situations get stressed, that sometimes is not the case. Very often in arguments, I get the same response: “I’m sorry but that’s just how I think/am.
Hello, I am new here and am glad that I found this forum. How do you handle disagreements with someone with ADHD? My H is ADHD and I am at the point, after 5-years, of avoiding all disagreements with him because some how they always get turned around to how I am the overly sensitive unrealistic person in the relationship as I sit there in tears after being told to go F*** off. Of course I'm going to be sensitive to being told that by someone who says that they love me and whom I deeply love. Sometimes I feel as though maybe I AM the crazy sensitive one who is too easily hurt. But when
I've been married to my husband for almost 12 years. He is a wonderful man, everyone's best friend, would give a stranger the clothes off his back, outside of the home. On the inside, I've felt like I have been going crazy for the past 12 years. I feel as though I am in constant fight or flight mode. I guess I don't understand. I've suspected for quite some time that he has ADD/ADHD but he will not get tested. We went to counseling once where he admits to having it but states he does not want to take medication and feels he can manage it.
How does one deal with an ADD spouse who does not show you any empathy. Thus, for example, when I tell him that I am developing a migraine, he does not respond because he is too busy checking his phone. Or I text him that I am not feeling well or had a bad day and he ignores it? I feel like he doesn't care and when I call him on it, he blames it on being busy or having ADD. I cannot stand not getting any emotional support from my husband.
I am so tired of trying to guess what I should do around H. Like Saturday he was working in the garage, so I felt like I had to do something too or he'd be all uppity that he's actually fixing things while I do nothing. So I mowed the yard. Luckily he was too busy to correct me on the way I was doing it. Then I was done and he was still working in the garage. I felt like I needed to go around and tidy up stuff in there. He didn't say anything but I felt like I was in the way. I asked if he needed my help with anything and he said no so I went inside.
H is building some shelves out in the garage. Oh I knew I was going to do a multitude of things wrong when he asked for help. I only had to hold a board level a few times while he drilled some screws in. Well as you can imagine, I certainly couldn't do that without him telling me I was either holding it to tight or not tight enough! Then came the big thing which he explicitly explained to me like I was 10 years old. I was going to have to hold the other end of the board as it came through the electric saw. I was going to have to hold it level with his end or it wouldn't go through.
Hello my boyfriend A recently broke up with me and i was with him for 2 years we had a normal happy fun loving relationship when he was happy until he got in a mood,mad,stressed,piss,frustrated then it all went out the window. He constantly reminds me of my past all my wrong doings but this was before him .
Hello All.
I am a woman with ADHD, mild Aspergers and mild learning difficulties (in certain areas) and I recently got out of a relationship with a person who also has Aspergers and ADHD.
Is 'clamming up' during stressful or difficult conversations linked with ADHD or is that just an individual character trait?
For a long, long time our 'conversations' have consisted of me talking and him supposedly listening. Even serious conversations about our ill daughter evokes the same response. Total silence. He will get off his chair and walk round the room or stretch or do something else physical but there is no verbal response.
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