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Hi everyone,

I am new to the subject of ADHD and marriage, and new to the idea that my husband has ADHD, but the more I read the more sense it makes. I hope to find comradery and hope from those of you out there who have been/are in these shoes. It is a terrible feeling to feel alone in the battle, and to question if the problem is you, your husband, or both. We have been together for over 7 years, but we have been married for just over 6 months. 

I am very fortunate to live in a city where there are two ADHD-focused counselors who do both ADHD coaching and couples therapy around ADHD. I know that for traditional therapy, your personal therapist should be separate from your marriage counselor. Do you think that goes for ADHD coaches too, or is coaching different enough from traditional therapy that it doesn't matter? I already have a mental health therapist that will remain separate from the coaching piece, so I don't anticipate my coach becoming my mental health therapist.

Hello lovely people; thank you for reading my post!

Hi! I'm new to this site. My husband has been recently diagnosed with ADHD. We have been married for 10 years and have one child. Since my husband is in the early stages of treatment, his symptoms are currently under treated and we are in the throes of dysfunction. We love each other and are committed to doing the best we can to make our life happier. We are both in therapy individually as well.

Okay, someone HAS to explain this one to me.  In the 20 years I have been with DH, virtually every job he has had he has described in the same way: he is the ONLY one there who knows anything, he is the only one who knows what's going on in the company, thank goodness they hired him because otherwise who knows what would have happened, no one else in the company has any clue...  You get the idea.  And yet, he has been fired twice in the past three years and it took him a solid year to find another job this time.  So how does that compute?

Hello!

Let me start by apologizing for such a long post. This is the first time I've reached out for help on this forum. My husband wants to keep his ADHD a secret, which leaves me with not many places to turn for help, so thank you for any insight.

For everyone here...  I feel that I don't have much to say at this forum any more, since my spouse's issue, as has been diagnosed, is not really add, but actually a personality disorder.

In all honesty, I suspect that is the case with many of the "add" folks being discussed here, and I have so much empathy for you all! 

My own course of action was to release all control over the situation, since that control was only an illusion, at best. I stepped away from the madness and filed for legal separation.