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I've found comfort in these forums but am also realizing the journey I'm on with my husband may be a hopeless cause. Do things change for couples? I went to his doctor with him a month ago. After crying to her that he didn't want to lose his marriage (after 3 affairs, $100k+ racked up in debt, huge tax problems, etc I am so ready to give up) she told him about this site, the books he could read - or even better, listen to on audio - as well other ideas. In the 4 weeks since that appointment he's done nothing.

I had some thoughts I thought would be worth sharing and some new information ( for me at least ) that I feel applies to me very much.....thinking, therefore a good chance of it applying to anyone else here having ADHD

Did Mozart Really Have ADHD? History Of Hyperactivity Off-base, Says Researcher

Hi there from the UK

I would like to hear your experiences about people who have ADD and are passive aggressive.

Is this a common combination? What can I do as a spouse?

My husband and I have finally hit a breaking point in our 12 year marriage. 

I'm not new to knowing I have ADD, but going through the medications to help me is some what new.  I'm very sensitive to higher doses, so keeping the meds low helps, but I have had a lot of trouble with various meds (anger issues, paranoid, stomach trouble and more). I tried the patches and they have not had the boost I need and the side effects are not good.  Now that I'm out of meds, new doc appointment set up, I realize how much worse I am since I was first told I have ADD & tried meds.  I'm about 60 pages into the ADHD Effect on Marriage.

My DH just spent a week visiting his sister in another state. Her newborn son was recently diagnosed with a very serious illness, so he was helping out with our 2-year old niece while his sister and her husband were in the hospital. This left me at home with our 1-year old son alone. 

Of course, I was glad that he was able to go down and be there for his sister. I have no resentment about being alone with our son for a week if it meant that my SIL was able to have her mind at ease knowing her daughter was well taken care of. 

I have been married for 3 years to my husband and we have 2 children. He also has 2 other children, only one of which he sees. We both work and I also go to school. He makes much more money than I do and most of the time works until dark or later. I ask for a certain amount of money every week for bills and I take the responsibility of making sure theyre paid. As well as his child support payments. He is a self contractor and is supposed to keep all gas and tool receipts as well as getting all his employees info, hours, pay, etc for tax purposes.

Hi. 
My husband and I have had a few fights lately - the same ones we always have and then ignore for a few months. He says I don't listen to him but I really feel like I am listening.

I'll spare the details and get to the point ... my ADD wife has heard enough times that she doesn't pay attention, doesn't listen, talks over people, etc and she gets that.  However, her strategy now is to "pretend to pay attention."  She'll be watching tv and on the computer and I'll talk to her and she won't look up from her computer or tv (whatever has her attention at that moment) and then when I have finished talking, she'll reply with an inappropriate response or an inappropriate facial expression (in the past she'd simply stay in whatever zone she was in).