I am beyond my limit of hearing H say that he really wants to do such and such and then never hear about it again. I heard again and again about this firepit area he wanted to do. Well yes he finally did get around to doing it and we have sat out there a total of 2 times since he completed it back in August.
My girlfriend and I have been dating for three months now and she told me from the beginning that she suffers from ADHD. She does not currently take any medications or seek any counseling/therapy. The biggest issue is she blames all of her shortcomings on ADHD, which I don't disagree with but it seems to be hurting our once amazing relationship. I am hoping that by stating our issues on here someone may be able to chime in with similar stories or advice that may help.
I am currently reading Melissa's book and finding it enlightening. I identify with many situations described there. However, both my spouse and I have ADHD, so the problems we're facing seem much more complex. Has anyone else approached this 6 step process from the same situation? Do I need a different resource, or can I adapt these methods to fit for my wife and me?
We're currently separated, but hoping to find our way back to each other. Any advice would be appreciated.
I have been working a lot these past few weeks on sorting out life stuff. Liz's stuff. What Liz sees. What Liz does in response. Focusing on what Liz can overlook, and what is just no longer acceptable. Liz is Non-ADHD. Believe me, there were a few times I started to wonder, but, nope. No ADHD. My spouse had a full diagnostic study at the Cleveland clinic. On their scale, their spectrum of a 1 - 10 severity, my spouse is between 9 and 10. And living with that, undiagnosed for 50+ years, he has developed a complex life system to accommodate and protect himself.
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I just joined this site and boy am I glad I did! My husband and I have been married almost 2 years and have been together for 6. I always new that he had ADD and it was never really an issue. When he and I first started dating, he was on his medication for it and he was everything I wanted in a person, (fun, sweet, family oriented, responsible, caring.. the list goes on). One day he stopped taking his medication and just changed, became lazy, irresponsible, never wanted to be around his family, was doing bad in school, making bad decisions.
Hi All,
How do you deal with an ADHD husband that can't/won't hold down a job? I have been the breadwinner for the duration of our marriage (13 years) and realize I have enabled him to "do his own thing" without concern about helping to support our family. He has held a couple of jobs for more than 2 years and he also likes to start his own businesses, but in either case when he runs into difficulties or has conflicts with others, he jumps ship. I know I've allowed this to go on for a long time, so how do I start dealing with this or is it too late?
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