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I keep saying this is it – the last straw – I cannot keep doing this – when will she ever “get it”. I know in my heart it may be never, but my “it” is different than her “it”. Our son is 5 years old next month and I have been his primary caregiver since he was 2 (we still all live together, but she does nothing to assist concerning parenting). I read where it stated to not “exaggerate – or whatever”, but I am completely serious. She has never read a book to him and could not tell you right now what his teachers name is.

So I have read a lot of disheartening stories here. I am currently with an adhd bf. Adhd has caused some problems, but we still love each other and we have talked about possibly getting married in the future. I am sure there are a good amount of successful adhd marriages. However, I see that adhd can also cause a lot of pain. What should i think about or evaluate about my adhd man before I decide to share a life with him? 

I had posted previously on here with a different name and received a lot of positive feedback.

Sorry, this is long as hell. But I'm just at a loss as to what to do. Maybe someone can help.

My husband has done some terrible things over the years (not cheat) and now he is trying his very best to mend the broken heart that comes with it... You probably all recognize the stuff out ADHD partners put us through so i wont list everthing but please, how do i forgive and let go??? 

I have already googled my brains out and "just let go" is not working :(

HELP!

My bf gets excited about various projects and doesn't see them through; I understand this and it doesn't bother me too much. Something I am having difficulty understanding is how sometimes he becomes interested in a strange project and suddenly it's a priority. For example, lately he has decided that building a wine rack for his car (you read that correctly) is a priority. He has a large subwoofer and tinted windows in this '97 wagon, and I know part of the appeal of such a ridiculous project is simply that--it's ridiculous.

So on this forum I have heard the term, "hyperfocus" regarding how romantic adhd partners can be at the start of a relationship. Does this mean that their romantic acts are not fueled by actual love but by there Adhd? Or are they in love when they are romantic but their adhd just makes them show it more? What makes this different than your typical relationship "honeymoon" stage and "comfortable" stage. Every relationship has a honeymoon stage at first and then people get comfortable.

Tomorrow will be our 4 year anniversary. I never dreamed we would be spending it apart and under these conditions. No matter what has happened and how far apart we are, I am still completely in love with my wife and only want her to be happy and to find some help to get through some of her own issues. I pray for her and our daughter every day and hope that one day she can come to realize how deeply I will always love her. Tomorrow will be a hard day...

It's been 3 years with my spouse and the fights are about the same things over and over again.Things would be fine for a few weeks sometime a month not even and then he would do something most of the time to start fights,example:he has these constant mood swings,i guess the fights is about me not living with him and his acceptance towards this could never change to the fact that i work from home, raise my kids from home and so on.It's been like this for the most part of our relationship and he can't accept this at all.When we have an argument he would text me the same things over and over a

so I have been reading a lot of these posts and it seems kind of depressing and hopeless. Probably because I am in the Anger and Frustration Forum. But still, it seems like there are a lot of people in a lot of pain because they are with an adhd partner. I have a question. If you were to go back in time, would you break up with ur adhd spouse when they were just your bf. Why? If not, why not? I am a twenty year old woman who has been dating an adhd man for over 2 years. I love him but I would be lying if I said we didn't have more problems than the average couple. We do.