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My sweet husband has ADHD and I am finally realizing how much I don’t know about it and NEED to know about it. I love him very much and want to be supportive and I'm 100% for our marriage... So I’m studying everything like a hawk, especially Melissa’s book.

So,I decided that after the holidays it would be a new start for me where I would find my sanity and end my marriage.Wrong! I am soo mad right now because even if I want to walk away right now it's just so hard for me and I am so overwhelmed by all this drama.The breaking of the new year was my turning point to move on with my life and start over fresh and find back my happiness that was taken from me two plus years now.

I'm starting to suspect, although I could be entirely wrong here, that my partner might have Oppositional Defiant Disorder issues to the extreme.  I always assumed that the reason he always seemed to behave the opposite of how I needed him to was because we were just a bad fit and that his ADHD caused him to be very self-focused so my needs were ignored.  I even mentioned in one post how it seemed that our basic needs always seemed to be in direct conflict so that one of us (actually just me every time) would have to jeopardize something intrinsically important to them to allow the other to

Well I will start off by saying I don't have a specific question rather sharing my own experience and insight if for no other reason then I feel the need to journal :)

So bit of history:

• Have been diagnosed with ADHD, Asperger and Dysthymia
• Currently separated from spouse but we're dating again and that's been fantastic
• Attending regular counseling
• Was taking Pristiq and Strattera

So the story begins:

Hello everyone,
IF YOU'RE NOT WILLING TO READ THIS AT LEAST RECOMMEND PEOPLE WHO WOULD, OR SITES.

First off, let me say that I'm SO glad to find this site! My husband just keeps telling me that I'm the nagging, crazy wife. It's nice to know that I'm experiencing the same emotions many of you are. My quick story- I've been with my husband for almost 7 years, married for almost 4. When I met him, he was newly divorced with 2 children (whom he shares 50/50 custody with). Together, him and I have a daughter and son. Depression, anxiety and substance abuse runs in his family.

I never thought that i would be at this junction that i am today. I was diagnosed with severe ADHD back in 8th grade and was on rydelan (spelling?) till sophomore yr. At that time i stopped taking it because i felt like a total zombie and that wasn't me back then. Im 24 now, been married a 1 1/2 and been with my wife 2 1/2 yrs total. i always knew i never really grew out of the ADHD like the doctors said i would..... but i never thought it was as bad as it is now. i did make an appt with the dr and it is at the end of this week.

So like most here, I need to communicate things to my husband that he just can not hear or process. Like most here he gets defensive, angry, interrupts me and eventually manipulates the whole conversation to go in a direction that better suits him. Like some here I have cried til my eyes hurt, screamed til my throat bleeds, I have lost patches of hair due to stress and now suffer from anxiety.....all in an effort to simply be heard, acknowledged and understood.

Having more and more time to think, I'm increasingly seeing how unbalanced my marriage was.  I was giving much more than I was getting in pretty much all areas: emotionally, financially, taking care of responsibilities, household duties, etc.  When I was talking to my friends about how much I love my husband despite all that he's done (or hasn't done), and how I don't mind supporting him financially and doing more than my fair share (which I didn't...