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Hello everyone, this is my first post here. I am not a native english speaker so, I apologise for the possible mistakes in writing.

I come accross in this forum because I am wondering if my husband -we first met 18 years ago- could be ADHD. I know this is not the way to get a diagnosis, but I need some help in order to speak about this with my husband and understeand if I can convince him to contact a specialist.

My husband and I hsve very different ideas about how to handle debt obligations.  I've seen him totally ignore bills, let them go into collection and worse,  Now we have to talk about retirement

I am the non-ADHD spouse and my husband was recently diagnosed with ADHD. We've been together 13 years, married for 8. He finally sought a diagnosis after a few years of impulsive decisions that had a increasing impacts, financially and emotionally, on our family and I was at the end of my rope. He is trying meds and in therapy. I have decided to stick with it with the hope things can improve. This forum has been so enlightening for me and so grateful I found it. So many things said here I could have written myself. 

Acceptance is key.  After 50 years of following my well-meaning mother's advice, "Act as if.", I have come to the point in my life that in the case of my husband's ADD, acting "as if" has been detrimental to my well-being.  I now challenge myself to accept reality as it is and heal after years of being ignored by the one person I devoted my life to supporting and loving.  Here is a meditation that I will re-name for those of us who are impacted by ADD/ADHD.  Feed your state of mind and heart to thrive in the face of pain and change to a heart of light and wholeness.  It makes a great start to your new day.  Enjoy:

Google the words "Powerful Guided Meditation for Healing & Letting Go" on YouTube.

Can anybody explain to me why whenever I say I have been watching a TV program (a series perhaps) that I have been enjoying and think my ADHD husband would like to, does he berate and put down the program within the first 10 minutes of me showing it to him, and start abusing me for being so stupid as to think it's good?  He then goes off on a rant for the next hour about all the problems in the world and the world is full of stupid people like me watching these programs.  (The program in question was actually a really high quality, multi-award winning British crime series,l not some sitcom or Love Island!!).  This then results in me changing the program over to something else which invariably is something he wants to watch.  He's ruined the evening by then and I go to bed.  Mmmm ..l always happens on a Saturday night!!   If he doesn't want to see it, why not just say so?!  Anyone else experienced this?  

Diagnosis finally happened....only it's not what we originally thought. 

I don't know how to not react to my husbands tone.  He is hyper vigilant and on my case all the time.  I am considering recording him to prove to him that his tone is too much! What to do?

Hello everyone, this is my first post here. I have read the "ADHD effect" book and it was a revelation.

Hi,

I have a question and maybe people around here have similar experiences. Forgive my lack of English, I'm Dutch. I'm a 39 year old man, just diagnosed with ADHD and in the middle of a rollercoaster of acceptance and other things.

About 11 months ago my girlfriend mentioned that i might have ADHD. Looking at my problems, sometimes angry out of nothing and my impulsivity, Next to the hyperactivity. The day after we spoke about it I made an appointment for diagnostic. But it would last 10 months for my appointment. 

My ADD husband and I used to have a lot of good friends. We saw friends all the time. I felt we were sought after because we brought fun to gatherings.

A couple of decades later, this is all gone. I have grieved it immeasurably. For many years, before diagnosis, I couldn't understand why it happened. My charming and kind husband started to withdraw from social events and became afraid to speak on the phone. He lost his confidence. I then lost my confidence, because it seems nothing makes you as vulnerable socially as a weakened partner.