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As I write this I'm yet again in a scenario that has been the most common theme and reoccurring argument my husband and I have had for years. 

Hello Everyone. I have a dear friend with ADHD whom I see almost every day walking our dogs. I'm the non-ADHD person. I'm trying to understand how ADHD affects her communication and also some behaviors. She is a dear friend but sometimes I feel exhausted after spending time with her and trying to figure out what her point is. Sometimes what she says or does feels rude but I don't think that is her intention. So here are some questions I have. Feel free to focus on one or two or as many as you want. I value your sharing what you know. 

Hi. I (30M, diagnosed ADHD) and my girlfriend (36F) have had multiple arguments over this and I want to see if I’m being unreasonable. For background, my girlfriend and I have very different "social battery" levels, with her almost constantly having plans and me wanting a lot of alone time. We frequently butt heads regarding this and I usually end up having to go to every event unless I'm ill (which does happen frequently - I also get migraines once or twice a week).

Hello.

Ive posted here a few times and this community helped me. 

Hi everyone, I am at my wit's end.  After umpteen conversations with my ADHD-diagnosed husband about how the marriage isn't working and I need to move on, I finally had to tell him that I just don't feel love for him anymore.  I never wanted to actually have to say this as this causes so much hurt, but things are not moving towards a point where we can separate.  We have had so many arguments - him screaming and shouting at me - with the last straw being him punching 4 holes in a wardrobe door a few weeks' ago.  I can't take the damage to property as well as everything else!  After another

I wanted to share some things I've learned about having ADHD, and any limitations I've experienced in my life in more recent times. Coming to this forum, helped me learn a great deal about ADHD an how I can apply them to myself. First and foremost: figuring out what was ADHD and what was something else? That appeared to be the biggest challenge I faced in finding out the particulars as they applied to me. I now have a pretty good handle on what they are.

In no particular order, I'm:

-ADHD..emphasis on the hyperactive 

I'm 51, diagnosed with ADHD about 12 months ago and have been married for 24 years.  I just found this community and I'm afraid it may be too late.  The effects of ADHD on our life and marriage have been substantial over the last few years and even as I type this my wife is sending me texts telling me that  it's over.  She barely believes that ADHD is real and keeps saying that I'm using it as an excuse for bad behavior.  I've started  listening to the book and feel like it's literally my life.  I don't want to get a divorce, this is devastating.  Any advice?

I have real communication problems with my wife. We’ve been married for 13 years and for the whole period I have been incredibly confused by her lack of communication. 

She rarely sends me messages or replies to messages that I’ve sent her, even if I send her pictures and thoughtful things I rarely get an acknowledgement.  So I have stopped doing it which is really sad. I see things I would usually say or share with a partner throughout the day and I just stop because I think there’s no point. A loving, connecting part of me has died. 

I am very confused and would really appreciate some help. My wife has ADHD and I am autistic. I have read a lot about couples where the non-ADHD partner can become the organiser and the nag and the ADHD partner feels like the child always being told off. 

However, in my case, my wife has ADHD and is also the nag. She is incredibly intolerant, angry and irritable.