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Hi all-

Would love people to weigh in on this:

Like many others here, my DH and I struggle with our sex life a bit (he is ADD and wants it all the time, I am the non and don't want it as often b/c we're still trying to work our way out of the parent-child dynamic). Our counselor suggested that we consider scheduling sex, which is something I've heard has worked for other couples...but I have some concerns.

I am so glad that I found this forum! I have so much to say so forgive me if this is long. My husband was diagnosed with ADHD about 7 years ago but should have been diagnosed much earlier in life (elementary school). He has been on medication since then but has not had any type of counseling/therapy. We have been together for 15 years and married for 11 years. He also suffers with components of OCD and there has been suggestions that he may display signs of Asperger's.

I recently got married to someone who I thought was IT! I mean everything in a nutshell. Even thought we came from EXTREMELY different planets (backgrounds) I felt like we just meshed so well. Knowing the my ADDer came from a broken home and a harsh environment (the HOOD) I could see the lack of expressing too many emotions, not knowing how to be romantic and not knowing how to conduct themselves in a new environment (the suburbs) but I thought that could change with time in no time. Boy I could not have been more wrong!! After our wedding date, things became warped.

My spouse has auditory processing/dyslexia and a learning disability.Which I read is coexisting in (some)cases of ADHD.I have noticed his learning disability when I saw he can't spell "some"words correctly.A simple word like for ex:"double",he has the thinking and the auditory processing all wrong,he would hear a commercial on TV for example and make it out to be different,he has been doing this with even me.If I were to tell him something like"hey please don't do that again"and in a soft tone,he would tell me that I was being nasty and that I have no right telling him that.Then we would st

Hi all,

the story so far.

I'm dating, or trying to date, a lady with ADHD. She knows that she has it, and has been on medication for about 7 years, and is very upfront about it, and some of the problems it can cause her.

Because of details separate from the ADHD, we are in agreement to take things slow and cautiously. Now, she is of the opinion, that I suffer from ADHD as well, there is good evidence she is correct. I am looking at getting an assessment for this.

My ADD guy and I have both been very busy with work these past few months... but recently as my schedule cooled down a little, my husband and I still spend very little time together (as in, in the house at the same time).  His work is less demanding now, too, but he's filled up every available hour with hobbies and activities and other people that take him out of the house or require him to spend hours on the computer fulfilling some promise he made to somebody. 

Thanks to all

I have spent the last few hours reading some very insightful thoughts and messages and am very grateful.

Hi, I've been involved with a man (who has ADD) for 4 months. He is 59, I'm 56. He just relocated from NC to Florida to continue our relationship after initially meeting in Florida while he was visiting a friend. We've had great communication, attraction, mutual like and respect for each other. We share many things in common. After being here for one week, he abruptly ended the relationship citing impulsivity that caused him to get over-involved. He said he did not love me enough to continue on. He blamed his behavior on his ADD and said he was sorry.

My daughter might have ADHD,I only realized that recently when I met my ADHD husband and did researches.I landed here and started reading books.I know I should not diagnose her but these are the signs from her from baby to 9 years.

Firstly this is what I noticed from her at a young age at pre-school:

My husband is a very "highly sexual person"he has to have sex at least 3 to 5 times a day,sometimes I am very up there in the sex mood as well, I have no problem with my sex drive, but, he tends to want to do this tooooo often and sometimes the only break I would get is if we had a big fight and I am home "by my house".I have noticed also that the only time we could communicate better is after sex, and that makes me wonder why???