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If this resonates with anyone - do what you HAVE to do, for YOU.  I started to write this as a realization for myself.  (But, that was BEFORE the argument earlier this month, a couple of days before my birthday!  I'll tell more about that in a moment):

So My DF has been diagnosed with ADD a few months ago and has been on and off of his medicine since his diagnosis.  He just communicated to me today that he will not be taking his medicine anymore because it is completely taking away his appetite and is also causing him sleepless nights.  He also said yesterday that he would be fine without it.  I'm not sure how I feel about that because in all honesty I don't feel like I've seen many changes in him when he has been taking it.  He says he feels calmer and a little more focused but he still gets easily frustrated.  I told him that as his nex

My husband tonight was very angry for no reason I could remember,I am dependent on him more than ever before, to help me with getting to the grocery with his car, to get my stuff for the business because my car is presently fixing"by him" and he seem to be failing me with that "ALSO",I love him a lot,,,,,,,, and I could see certain efforts in him to make change but he is not a patient man at all!!!!!!

Hello all. I’ve just signed up to this forum and I’m hoping to garner some advice. I’m in the third year of a relationship with an ADHD girl, whom I love very much. However, her condition is creating problems and I’m afraid they may ultimately doom the relationship. She’s aware of her condition and works hard on it, but she also has a very hard time taking responsibility for the things she says and does. I tell myself that it’s just her condition and I’m very good at not taking her behavior personally, but it gets very hard sometimes.

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Hello,  I'm new to this and really have not a clue if I'm doing this right but any how here I go . I would love some feed back and some advice with my relationship to the man I love dearly before we both just walk away. We both suffer from ADHD/ADD I am a 30 year old women divorced one time. My soon to be husband is 26 and also is divorced times one..

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD about a year ago.  I have a 12, 10, and 5 year old.  I moved to another state about 3 years ago for my husband's job.  He is very successful and work-a-holic.

I am responsible for most of the childcare and child issues.  More than usual since he was not reliable for childcare and his schedule of work and his extra activities haven't allowed for childcare.    He is making an effort now outside of work.  But work doesn't leave much time or energy.

I'm not sure exactly where to post this but just reading some of the other posts on here today have been helpful and I need a place to vent....

Hi there...I'm new to this forum and site.  I came upon this site because my girlfriend has treated ADD.  I've know this since I've known her, but I felt like her ADD affected our relationship still so I wanted to know what I was getting into by being with her for the long term.  So after reading on here and doing research, I got the book from Melissa the other day and started reading it.  I looked on this website and saw a lot of the frustrations that people had.  I worried about kids in the future, them getting fed and will she just be all over the place to help take care of them.

I have been married to my ADD husband for almost 3 years. It is my second marriage. I have 4 children and he has 2 children. I have tried everything. I have resorted going to Alanon because he also has on/off addiction issues. I love him, but he just has too many problems. His ADD has ruined his life and is ruining my life. I am in debt because he CANNOT manage money and blames it on everyone and everything else. When I try to talk to him he gets defensive and makes a million excuses. At one point he had the business account -7,000.00. I almost had a heart attack.

Ok, life with an ADHD spouse is a roller-coaster.  I have been in every type of counseling for about a decade.  My husband was diagnosed with ADHD, very severe about a year ago.  In my opinion the ADHD lifestyle has been a very cruel way to live.  There is so much hurt that I clearly remember and live with each day.  most of it is very well explained in the ADHD book.  Being ADHD, my husband seems to be able to move on very easily.  I think he is working moderately-hard to learn from his ADHD.