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I am recently diagnosed with inattentive-type ADHD and could use a little help from other women (and men!) with ADHD. I'm 37, a wife and mother of 2 boys (7 & 13, oldest had ADHD also). Up until this point, I feel like my life has been mostly successful, however,  much of that has been thanks to a fabulous husband and a relatively high IQ, which usually allows me to compensate for the rest of my shortcomings. There were the usual issues with school (high test scores, low interest) and a checkered job history (several, the longest being 7 years...

I was dating a girl with ADD and one thing that bothered me was that she very often would not say "thank you" or show appreciation for dinners, gifts, doing nice things for her, helping her with her school work, lending her things, etc.  It was something that really bothered me over time because I felt like she was just taking advantage of me and it caused me to close down quiet a bit.  I raised the issue with her and although she acknowledged what I said, she seemed not to really change her ways.  I told her it made me feel like she didn't care about me.

I just want to say that I am very frustrated at America as a whole. This isn't a political post, but this is a societal post. Why are the expectations on people so high to the point that everyone with ADHD must medicate? Manners, etiquette, respect, productivity, professionalism, appearance, organization, emotionless, resilient, patient... The rules that we must maintain at any given moment is overwhelming, complex, and to be frank unnecessary! And everyone knows that the more complex the rules and expectations are, the more likely someone with ADHD is going to have trouble doing it.

I love my husband very much... But things have become unbearable. I am a Christian, and I am trying to do what is right.. and that is stay with him no matter what. 

I have ordered almost every book on the market geared towards the ADHD/Marriage situation.. and as usual I am the only one interested in reading them. 

We were seeing a Christian Family Counselor, and things seemed so promising in the beginning.. But it was not long before the same old habits kicked back in. 

My husband drives me bonkers when it comes to taking care of the yard.  For the first year of our marriage it wasn't an issue because our landlord took care of our yard promptly.  I LOVED IT!  I genuinely think Hubby never noticed.

Let me just start out by saying I don't even know if I fit into this site. I as a child was diagnosised with ADD and dyslexia. I did well as a threw High School and collage. Things fell apart fast Post Cancer. Its bad. I cant think, I cant remember anything, my mind is in constant fog. List, tasks, events, faces all but disappear in to haze. My wife and I are close to the end. I now suffer from extreme anger issues and frustration. I say incredibly hurt full things that I don't mean but uncontrollably come out when we fight. I Don't know what related to what.

I am so overwhelmed with how complicated this is - to try and change every minute, every interaction, every hour of every day of every month of every year - and at the same time ignoring the chores left undone, feeling ignored, feeling hopeless, keeping my lips sealed shut when he fails YET AGAIN at something he promised to do. I have to think about every word that comes out of my mouth, because he may be "offended" or become defensive because of his own baggage. I am TIRED of feeling like his enemy.

I am a female non-ADHD partner who, within the last few days, discovered a major deception by my ADHD partner.  Basically, he purchased a house and planned down to the last detail how to cover-up the purchase and move into it, in order to move out of our home before I would even realize what was happening.