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My husband is a loving, generous, very smart man who was diagnosed as an adult with add. We have been together 14 years and have children. He holds down a fairly flexible job and is good at it, but has difficulty with any deadlines, reports, meetings, and schedules in general and so far has been able to avoid getting in too much trouble over it (I understand that these things are hard for him but I worry about his job security).

I feel completely alone and the loneliness feels so much worse when you are actually in a relationship. I love him to bits and so does he but on a day to day basis sometimes I feel invisible to him. (He has ADD and I don't) Even the tiniest issue about him has to be discussed and addressed as it feels of major importance to him (and I'm always there and happy to support him). Then when I feel sad or under the weather I'm on my own.

Good article from the Wall Street Journal today on marital nagging.  It's not specific to ADHD, but the nature of the problem and the recommendations are just as valid (or perhaps more so!) in an ADHD relationship.  http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052970203806504577180811554468728.html

My boyfriend and I were on the verge of ending our relationship when I found Melissa's book. We were both amazed and so hopeful when we first read it. It was truly a biography of our relationship.

I honestly believe things have gotten worse since my husband started taking Adderall. He started on the medication on 12/30/11 and by 1/3/2012 he was a totally different person and things have not been the same since. He is doom and gloom around the house, telling me things aren't going to work out between us, etc. What do you think??

I am in a relationship with someone with ADHD. I don't have ADHD. When I started reading ADHD Effect on Marriage, I was relieved and hopeful. I asked my boyfriend to read the patterns section so he could understand how I feel. He started to read it, then he left it at work. Needless to say he hasn't read it and still does not know/understand how I am feeling. I have lost hope. How can anything ever change with someone who has ADHD?

Hello all,

Light-hearted humor postings by the people with the ADHD.

  I've always thought that music had a wonderful way of pulling emotion out of me and I came across an old favorite song that I hadn't heard since my wife's ADD diagnosis.  I listened, but this time the words hit a deeper, much sadder chord in my heart.  It says everything I'm feeling about the emotional roller coaster my/our lives have become in the past few years, how I have to say goodbye to the now unrealistic expectations of our relationship, and just how incredibly lonely I've now become.  Please.  Take a listen and let me know what you think about this song.....it brings me to tears

I would like to get some tips/insights to my post as a newcomer to this situation. I have known my partner for a long number of years, we have been best friends since we were young. We are both now in our 30's and discovered that we have strong feelings for each other. This came as a shock to us as our friendship was always platonic and none of us was expecting this friendship to turn into love EVER.