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Hi there,

I'm new to this forum (been a fan of the books for a while though) so this is a shot in the dark.

Can anyone recommend a couples therapist in the UK please?

Ideally they'd have to specialise in on or more of these - ADHD, autism, bipolar, depression, PTSD. 

Many thanks.

Why do I feel like I need to plan, rehearse, then re-plan and rehearse again every conversation I need to have with my diagnosed ADHD spouse?  I never know how his brain will interpret what I am saying (often becomes completely skewed).  I am constantly second-guessing myself and waiting for the right moment to "pitch" what I need to say.  For example, I need some small jobs done around the house which I could get a tradesman for, but they are small jobs that my H is more than capable of doing himself ..

At least since they were 6 or 7, our now-14 ADHD (and other issues) kid has snuck unhealthy food into their room and binged.  For example, a box of chocolates or a gallon of ice cream would disappear and we would eventually find the empty container hidden in their room.  They are vegetarian, but they will not eat most vegetables.  They often eat ramen noodles; mac & cheese; and junk food.  They are still taking food up to their room, leaving uneated food and dirty dishes lying around, and drawing flies.  They also make really bad messes in the kitchen and don't clean them up.

I have been following this forum for years. I have read tons of books on ADHD and Melissa's book is my all-time favorite. I had it underlined with all kinds of notes for many years.

I've suspected that my partner has had ADHD for about 5 years but refuses to acknowledge it. When I initially bright it up 5 years ago, he was very very angry and told me I'm not a doctor. He's right I'm not. But since then I've read a number of books on the subject. Either way I just wish he would talk to someone about it. Recently he took an online test after we had a huge fight, it said he is highly likely to have it. 

It's been 7 months since ADHD became a topic with my husband. Probably 4 or 5 since he really started cracking down on amending his behaviors. And I have to give him credit. He's been diligent and consistent far beyond what I could have imagined. And I think that's great.

My wife started taking Wellbutrin a few months back and Methylphenidate recently.  She seems to be able to focus a bit better on day to day tasks,  but I feel like I'm invisible now at times.  At times she seems to hyper focus more now than in the past.    Is this something that is common with Adhd meds and specifically what my wife is taking?  I have dealt with the occasional hyper focus and distracted behavior in the past, but now she seems very focused on many of the things she's doing and it's as if I'm not there.  She still has lapses in focus.  She ran out of gas last week, and as alw

I am newly learning that many of the issues in my marriage probably stem from my ADHD. My husband and I have two young children and I am 16 weeks pregnant. We have had ups and downs and recently we seem to have hit rock bottom. He told me last night that he was going to leave, not speak to me, and that I would be responsible for telling our children. An hour and a half goes by of me trying to process what happened and he comes in calmly to tell me he made a mistake, he said things he didn't mean when he was extremely frustrated and that he loves me.

Hi there, I am 40-something male with inattentive ADHD. I have suspected my whole life that I have it but was only diagnosed about a year ago. That said, my non-ADHD wife and I (together 18 years, married 14) have long struggled greatly with issues related to my ADHD.

Hi everyone, first time posting here.

I'm a male adult that had ADHD as a kid, and was diagnosed (without testing, just through talking with a therapist) with adult ADHD earlier. I am married to a wonderful, thoughtful, and non-ADHD partner. As additional background, I also have anxiety and have been taking fluoxetine.