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Friday January 14th I was served divorce papers I found out later that afternoon that future ex (he has the ADD) told our oldest son @ home that it would happen the night before. (Is that putting child in the middle?)
Not sure if the youngest knew or not, thinking not but ............

Hello,

 As a young child I was diagnosed with ADHD. I went threw counceling and the rigours testing of tons of medications. Its very difficult to sit and concentrate on something for long periods of time that im not interested in.

I am new to this site.  I recently read Melissa's book.  I have also read a couple of Ned's book and just purchased two more.  The bottom line is I am wondering if there are other people out there who are dealing with a partner who has both ADHD and bipolar disorder.  I am not sure if focusing on the ADHD alone will help our marriage, or if there are other resources I need to look into.  Right now I don't want to be married, but I financially cannot make it on my own in a high priced area in the U.S.  In addition, I have twin sons who have high functioning autism.  I need my husband for t

I'm new here. Well, new to posting anything here, but today has just been so miserable that I had to put it all somewhere, and I hope you'll all be gracious enough to allow me the vent. My other half is eight years younger than me, and was diagnosed with ADHD and depression as a child. His mother died when he was young, and his father refused to get treatment for his problems, insisting that he was making it all up for attention and because he was lazy. I know he still suffers terribly from ADHD, and he's acknowledged it himself many times.

Hello Melissa, and everyone,

I am the husband of a wife that I suspect has some sort of ADHD subtype.  I've read 5 books now on the topic (originally suggested by our marriage therapist).  My life with my wife seems to have been recorded and reiterated on nearly every page of those books.  She is highly functioning, and my guess is that most of her difficulties have found hiding places in her coping mechanisms that she has had 53 years to perfect.  This is an elusive disorder in my wife to say the least.

First let me say that finding this website and Melissa's book have been like finding a life preserver in a stormy sea where I was about to drown. I guess it has been about a month and where I thought there was no hope I am finding hope again.
 

Many of you know that my husband and I (well, probably more me than him) were having some recent issues I felt were related to medication. We hit 'rock bottom' last winter, reconciled in Dec 09, decided things were changing or we were going our separate ways, and committed to getting in counseling, back in church, and getting things right in our lives and our marriage. I know things tend to 'cycle' with ADHD, and I often question my own feelings and my own beliefs when things head south for us.

Hi everyone im so glad I found this site because I was beginning to buy into my ADHD husbands belief that im a rediculous person for asking him to spend time with me! We have been married 7 years and no kids luckily! I have been thinking about leaving because I am getting lower and lower on his priority list I think. Computer and Internet come first where he spends a lot of time. He doesnt know he spends so much time on there because he has no sense of time at all. He can be on the computer for a whole day, then complain about how he got nothing done!

Hi, I'm the spouse of a person with ADD (no HD).  We know that scheduling and a routine could really help dissolve so many of our ongoing conflicts, hurts, and resentments.  Unfortunately, we've discovered that my husband, who has ADD, cannot stick to any one routine or organization system consistently.  He's very creative and likes to invent his own methods.  That's fine, however, he will continually reinvent new ways each and every time.  For example, around balancing the checkbook.  He doesn't have the patience to learn or be taught the recommended way of doing it so he invented his ow