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I had a long talk with my ADD partner last night.

I told him that I feel our relationship lacks joy, laughter, fun, peace, intimacy, life, connection, communication... etc, etc.

I expressed to him that I am aware all of these things are as a result of poorly treated/managed ADD symptoms.

I also expressed to him that from what I read this is also why I'm losing my sh*t and reacting with so much anger and bitterness, sadness and resentment. 

So here we are again.  I just recently got Melissa's book The ADHD effect on Marriage.  First day we got it, the both of us read the first 7 pages.  Since then, I am the only one reading.  So far, I understand more now about ADHD, the descriptions, feelings, situations describe my husband and I to the "T".  I am not completely done with the book but so far I have been doing things differently as far as talking to my husband.  I decided to go ahead and stop the nagging and approach him in different ways.  Although this has put him in a happier mood, I am still here feeling the same, only n

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There's gotta be more than just Melissa and Dr. Hallowell on here that have a happy ADD marriage and a story to go along with it. I'd love to get some inspiration from these happy couples! Tell me your story!!! How and when did your ADD relationship turn around. Some detail about what tools you and your partner used along the way. Does it *stay* happy or is it always an up and down roller coaster that you've now just become accustom to?

Help! Please give me some hope and some joy!!! 

I don't know what it was that actually made me go right over the edge but I'm there.

We've started counseling and the counselor suggested we work on one issue at a time. So, we thought tackling the household chore imbalance issue would be a great easy place to start.

We were told to get a white board and hang it somewhere visible (kitchen), sit down with each other once a week and put on the white board all the chores that would need to be done within that week or so.

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DH was diagnosed with ADD a couple years ago, but he does not think it's a valid diagnosis.  He was treated with Adderrall at that time and nothing else, so it didn't go that well.  He hasn't taken anything for it in at least a year or two now. 

Hi! I've stumbled upon this tremendous resource as many have said and are experiencing some marital issues.  I have been married to my husband for a little more than six years and we have three kids. We had our first child when we were both 22 and were married at 23. When I met him we met in very romantic circumstances and things were great when we were dating. He disclosed to me very early on that he had ADD, (was diagnosed in high school), suffered from depression and was a recovering alcoholic.

One of the things I've learned living with my ADHD husband is things are DIFFERENT. In many situations things cannot be based on "real world" conclusions, methods, thinking,conclusions, tools etc.

It really is like living in a parallel world. I often jumped to conclusions because in my life before him, 1+1 = 2, not always true with ADHDers. Navigating their thinking, responses behaviors can be a treacherous, confusing maze.