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I keep seeing a theme...that the ADDers aren't capable of change...and it really makes me sad, regardless of circumstances, that this is something people truly feel. I think people are equally capable and incapable of change, across the board, and ADD plays a small role in it..maybe.

I've had problems in the past with speaking before thinking, but I think it is getting worse or maybe I am being hyper critical about it.  However, lately my comments are getting me "in trouble" with myself and others.  I'm fast to say no, or make a negative crack after someone makes a statement or asks a question.  This happens mostly at home with my sons and husband.

Hi, I am a new poster, but have been lurking for days.  My husband does not have a diagnosis of ADD or ADHD, but I have realized that there is something desperately wrong with him for a long time.  We have been married for 12 years, and the "honeymoon" ended when our first child was born- seems like literally when she took her first breath, I fell into the well of loneliness.

Ok so I am the non, my husband is the adhder. We have had are ups and downs in our marriage just like most adhd relationships. I love my adhder very much! He has many good qualities as a person, husband, and father. I have been trying to learn about adhd because I want to keep my marriage, I know the way I deal with his adhd affects our relationship as much as the adhd. I am trying to look past all of your old crap and start looking and treating our marriage in a new way. I have always know he had adhd however I never took the time to learn about it until recently.

In a nutshell, ADHD Boyfriend and I had a whirlwind/hyperfocused romance for 1 mth, and are in a long-distance relationship for 6-7 mths. We work for the same company ; he works offshore. We live in different countries, so when he gets his month off from work, he goes back to the US. He doesn't call, till he gets back.

I've been with my partner for 2 years. We have been planning a wedding for about 6 months.  She is a very caring, loving and funny person.  But she gets so unpredictable and unreliable that i get nervous about her stability with work.  She has had more jobs in the two years I've been with her than I've had my entire life.  She has been upfront with me and has told me that she has ADHD, Depression and PTSD. But to tell you the truth i didn't know what that ment.  As quickly as she can be happy and romantic, she can turn and be the most evil mouthed intimidating person you could ever meet.

Good Morning,

I posted this a couple of days ago (I am new here) and got some good advice from Sherri. I am re-posting as I feel my long post may have been overwhelming and because, after reading a lot of other posts, I want to make sure my post doesn't come off as ADD bashing. Here goes:

Right now I am at my wits end. I love the person I am with but am not convinced the state of our relationship is healthy. He is a great guy (loving, kind, supportive and always ready to sacrifice).

I'd be interested in feedback on the ideas in this article.  i can see myself in this dynamic.

http://www.angriesout.com/grown20.htm

brendab

I just wanted to say that I enjoy reading everything you have to say. You have a lot of valuable insight to offer to all of us. I belive you are an asset to this Website. I wish you luck in achieving your educational goals!

     We have been lucky enough to find a counselor who will see us on Saturdays (but she's not there every Saturday). We had a session yesterday where we talked about some of his ADHD characteristics  that drive me crazy. One of them is that I feel like he does not value my life because he chose not to work for nearly 3 years and I had to go without necessary medical care. Another is one everyone involved with someone with ADHD is familiar with-not keeping their word.