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Complications with spouse and MIL with ADHD

My situation is complicated. Not only am I dealing with an ADHD spouse (diagnosed as a child) and I think we deal with that fairly well, although there is room for improvement, but I am also dealing with an undiagnosed mother-in-law. Sometimes I feel like more of the problems in our marriage surface due to her than anything else. The biggest issue is that she has no boundaries …..

ADHD or Bipolar??? HELP!

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD about 2 years ago, he is 39. He has every symptom of it, but cannot seem to find the right meds plus counseling. Our marriage really takes a hit from it, but I have been reading the new book and it really helps- it is our exact marraige! He was very happy today because he had an appt with a great ADHD psychiatrist, but when he got there they said the psych was backed up and he saw a nurse practiioner that hasnt even graduated yet!

New and in need of help

I'm new to this forum.  Just found it today and am relieved that I might be able to find some help and answers for my family.  I am married with two kids.  My husband has ADD.  In addition I have a almost 7 year old son with high functioning Autism and a 7 year old daughter with Sensory Issues although she manages well now.  My husband travels 20 days a month and honestly life is much easier when he is gone.  Truth be told I'm crying typing all of this.  I feel like between his ADD and my sons Autism I am a losing my mind.  I have to manage everyone and in the end there is nothing left fo

Where to draw the line?

My husband and I have been separated for 5 months.  There were a few reasons for the separation (which I will briefly mention later) but since the separation I've tried to move on with my life.  My husband pushed me away through his actions and words.  My question to other married couples dealing with an ADHD spouse is:

1) am I abandoning my husband or not trying hard enough if I move on?

project after project

My husband built a garage about 2 to 3 years ago.  He wanted a garage for almost 16 years before he actually got it built.  It is a huge garage, 40X60, to be exact and we live on an acre lot.  He has accumulated so many old junk vehicles and treasures to him that we got in trouble with planning and zoning.  He avoided the letters for a very long time until this past year they sent us certified letters about the matter and now I am dealing with something I had nothing to do with but because My name is on the deed I am responsible for his doing.  He blames Planning and Zoning not himself fo

Getting the ADHD person to realize or stop and ask if they really do have the desease

I've been married for 10 years and it hasn't been an easy 10 years.  Many things have taken place.  I left him for 3 months this year and finally moved home but still not convinced I want to stay married to him.  I have read some of your book that just came out, the 6 signs.  But after reading most of it it made me agree.  He was the one who should read it first because he agreed he would read it.  I have done my research but if he doesn't believe what I say it won't do us any good.  I'm so tired and don't know if it is worth my time and frustrations to work this out.  I have a temper any

Is it his ADHD or is he just bad ?

My boyfriend returned to work after a month of vacation. We work for the same company, but he works offshore. Sometimes if we communicate ,its via e-mail,maybe the phone. Off work, he has to call, cos its offshore. Otherwise, there's the e-mail. Get this , in his month of vacation, he didn't call or e-mail once. When I asked him after his return, he said he was sick and forwarded his credit card bill and prescription.But I know he was doing a few transactions online for his business ( on the side). So he hyperfocused on that, and forgot to call and let me know he's alive. Fine.

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