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This post is directed to the non-ADD spouses/partners who remain in their relationship with an ADD person.

I have been married to my husband for 10 years (known him for 18) and we have 3 children 5 and under (we were optimistic), and one of them has autism.  My ADHD husband really, really struggles with our autistic son (who, ironically, is just like him).  Our son takes ALOT of my time & energy.  My husband is often demanding and impulsive, and can drastically undo the work I am doing to maintain a semblance of consistency and sanity in my home.  That is, I have learned certain strategies that work with our son to prevent meltdowns (that are hours long), keep the peace, and create a posit

So after 5 years of marriage I've - mostly by chance - figured out that my wife has ADD, a moderate form.  No she, hasn't been diagnosed yet - raising that is the next big step - but I'm very careful, have done my homework, and it's just too exact a fit.  It explains so much.  Trust me on that.

I have been reading this forum for some time now, and have diagnosed by husband with ADD. He is in denial, or if he may occasionally acknowledge it, he refuses to get help. This last week he has begun suffering from acute delusional disorder/paranoia. He believes that the everything is bugged - the house, my car, the computer; that people are listening in on our conversations, people are out to get him and bring him down. He believes all his friends are in on it as well - they are all agents. He suffered from this delusional disorder 7 years ago as well, for about 2 months.

Hi, I'm new here and asking a lot of questions!

We live in Ontario, Canada, and my husband is not as yet formally diagnosed. In order to be diagnosed by a specialist, we need a referral from our GP. She is new to us, and doesn't know my husband well enough to go on anything but our word. Still I think we will be able to convince her about the need for an appointment.

Well in any case, I would like to know what is covered by OHIP in diagnosis, treatments and/or medication.

Anyone have any experience with this?

I read somewhere that drinking coffee helps ADHD's concentrate much better. I have seen it work with my ADHD husband... in fact, now, when I have something important to talk about, I wait for the coffee. He isn't on any other medication  - we are self-diagnosed at this time.

I haven't seen anything about it on this site- or I'm not looking in the right places.... any opinions?

Hi everyone,

just like most people in this section of the forum, I just discovered that my husband (we just got married a month ago) has ADD. We were going through a lot of issues, (we went out 4 years ago and it was too chaotic so we broke it off but decided to give it a try again, last fall.) and he always blamed all of his problems on the traumatic events of his childhood. (his mother was a disruptive alcoholic and both parents died  when he was 13 years old.)

I am wondering if other nonADHD spouses experience what I do in terms of having to be the one to always initiate things?

We don't get out of bed unless I say "Are you ready to get up?"

We don't eat unless I say "Are you hungry?"

We don't go out unless I say "Are you ready to go?"

We don't make plans unless I say "Do you want to get together with so and so this weekend?"

We don't go out together unless I say "Do you want to go for a walk?" or "Do you want to go to a museum tomorrow?"

My husband recently was diagnosed with ADHD at 59. He is now taking Ritalin. Through our health insurance, my husband worked with a psychiatrist who used the TOVA to decide which medication to use and to titrate the dose. We will soon be losing our health insurance and my husband will be relying on the VA, our only option due to pre-existing conditions. He has been seeing the VA psychiatrist every few months just to keep plugged in at the VA, but they do not write any prescriptions for him so far.

Hi,

I've been married 9 years and only last week, after reading an article about ADHD marriages, could see that my husband is most likely having ADD. We have had a difficult marriage, and I had twice reached the point where I was going to leave, with our little daughter in tow.