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My wife often takes what I consider to be "simple" requests as criticism.  For example, I am now doing the laundry and I would like to say to her "Honey, would you please do me a favor?  When you take your clothes off at night, would you please turn them right side out?"  I want to ask her this because it would save me time in folding/hanging up clothes, because as it is now - all her clothes are inside out and I have to spend at least 5 minutes or more turning them right side out when I do the laundry. 

My husband of 15 years has undiagnosed ADHD, our last marriage counselor suggested he be tested and treated a few years ago but hasn't done it.  He'll bring it up every now and then but never follows through.

Please, I need help. I feel I am I am finally becoming unable to cope.

 Actually I have often felt despair swamping me over the past 5 years since my husband sent an angry email threatened divorce unless I did certain things he wanted. He ended by telling me that "You are a good lay". That feel upsetting too. But things have always been hard to live with with him. He now curtly refuses to discuss the matter of his marital plans. I try to cope with the uncertainty.

I am 31, and I recently discovered that I have ADD.  It feels like a ton of bricks have been lifted from my shoulders.  I feel great about it.  It has explained a great deal of my life.  I've always had a sense that I was different, but I never knew what it was.

I have been reading posts for a long time and often times it has helped me to calm myself down after feeling particularily upset about another incident with my ADHD husband.  We have been married 17 years - he is 17 years older than me but I  feel much older!!!

My husband has been staying at his brother's house for the last two weeks, and will soon be staying in a house he bought several months ago.  All I feel is a profound sense of relief...the constant anxiety is easing a little bit every day and I actually feel optimistic about the future for the first time in years.  Although my children are all still at home and I have to deal with my Sjogren's Syndrome on a daily basis (it's not fun), I feel GOOD.  Twenty six years of living with his ADHD and OCD have taken such a tremendous toll on my physical and mental health that it's almost like the ai

Ive noticed latley one trait that can be either present in the adhd person, or in the non-adhd person, but when gone unrecognized can wreak havoc on a relationship with spouse and kids alike. 

what is it.....ever get that feeling that you always get so frustrated with the fact that people wont just listen and listen to your lead when you try to either work together, or ask them to do something. 

My husband left the house this morning after an argument. He left the car, his cell phone, and all his belongings -- just walked out -- and it's after midnight and I still haven't heard from him. I'm left sitting here on the couch, worried sick, and wondering where all of this went wrong.

I was just reading through some old posts and came across some about tantrums.  The posts were about tantrums the person with ADD throws.  However, when I read some of them, they sounded like they were describing me!  I am the non-ADD partner, and I find myself sometimes - and lately, I would say often - getting to the point where I "snap."  I find myself yelling furiously at my wife, leaving the room and slamming the door behind me, going back into the room and yelling some more, leaving again, feeling like kicking or throwing something, shouting the F word as loud as I can while I pace ba