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We finally found a shared hobby!

One of the big problems with my fiancee & I is that we seem to have little to nothing in common. We share a lot of ideas and beliefs, but have completely different tastes in movies. I like to read while he plays video games - but I immerse myself in a book and it can be hard to focus with the soundtrack of him swearing at the game and constantly asking "Did you see that?"  The few things we do have in common, are things that are generally done separately - when living within easy reach of babysitters we'd go to a free poker game once a week, but we'd be seated at different tables.

Too Many Rules

My wife has become aware (from me and from reading about ADHD) that there are lots of behaviors she has that "annoy" other - not only me, but also friends and coworkers, and she wants to do things differently.  In fact, now that she is so aware of how much she wants to do differently, she is feeling very overwhelmed.  In her words - she has "too much to think about.  There are just too many rules."  Add to that - her self esteem is suffering.  What advice do you have for her, and for me as I support her and give her feedback on how she is doing, as she continues to work on her behaviors, so

We Really Seem to Be Stuck

I have been trying a combination of things with my ADHD wife so that we don't end up fighting all the time.  Things like not constantly criticizing her every time I notice she forgets to do something or when she again does something I repeatedly asked her not to because it upsets me in some way or other; setting clearer limits and "natural" consequences, such as leaving at the agreed upon time evn if it means she comes later in her own car so that I don't end up feeling angry and frustrated all the time; and taking time for myself - getting together with friends without my wife and suggesti

Little Acts of Kindness

I often feel like I am doing little acts of kindness for my wife - getting her morning coffee when I am the first one up, cleaning her glasses when I clean mine, emptying the dishwasher when I get home before her, offering her a snack when I get up to get one for myself - I could go on and on.  And it feels like she hardly ever returns the favor in kind.  I'm thinking that these things just don't make it to her radar - and that it has to do with her ADHD.  In fact, I HOPE it's related to her ADHD, else it would mean she is a thoughtless person.  This is beginning to take it's toll in that w

Is there hope? HELP please!

Hello everyone,

I discovered this forum two days ago, and I still can't believe that after all these years of being at a loss, desperate and lonely in my relationship I may have found what it was all about!

It's a strange feeling - at first, it seemed like a revelation; I felt a sense of exhilaration, relief, and hope. Finally, so many things made sense! But now I am also scared about what it all means for the future, and wonder if it is too late to unlearn the destructive / negative cycles we've been mired in for at least 6 years.

Problems with completion

With just about everything in life I get 95% finished and then I'm done with whatever it is. I don't know if it is that my head has moved on to the next thing, or I let myself believe that I am finished or maybe both? At any rate... I'm pretty sure this is part of my ADD and it is causing problems especially since I am currently a stay at home mom. The house is my job and with my inability to finish things I am horrible at it. It's causing depression in me and frustration/resentment in my DH.

All of this to ask... What do you do to make sure that you finish household tasks?

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