Recent forum posts (all topics)

Hi there!  I'm new to this forum and just thought I'd post an introduction.  I have been with my husband for 16 years (married 7). We have 2 beautiful children - a 2 year old and we just welcomed our daughter into the world about 3 weeks ago.  I don't really know where to begin to tell you about our story.  We met in university and we've been inseparable ever since.  We've struggled through university, struggled over jobs (he's lost 2 and is now self employed).

I have read that ADHD is genetic and often runs in families. Even though my mother has passed on I am convinced that she had ADHD and that at least 1 of my sisters also is ADHD. (My mom was never diagnosed and my sister can't afford to be diagnosed.) Anyway, I wasn't diagnosed until 30 years old because I really never knew anything about ADHD. I could never explain my problems until I read an article in a magazine and it all clicked.

So I've left my possible ADD and definitely Bipolar boyfriend behind.

I'm not sure what came first but the symptoms were so close I wonder if there is a distinct different in terms of recovery. It is unlikely that we will get back together even after he's started recovery as he is an alcoholic. The doctor evaluting him asked if he wanted to continue a love relationship with me and he said he didn't know. It's hard to accept after all the support I've given him and the fact that we have been friends for over 20 years.

I will try to keep this simple. I'm too exhausted to write much. How do I withstand the constant barrage of ideas and brainstorms, and all of the relentless negotiation he pursues with me to try to get me to agree that it, (whatever "it" might be) is a great idea, and i should be on board.

I am fairly new to this site.   I have read numerous posts from Non-ADHD spouses commenting on the lack of sex or interest in sex from their ADHD spouse.  I have the opposite situation.

I need advice for how to handle a financial issue that seems to continue in our marriage.  My husband did not have his taxes deducted from his unemployment checks 3 years ago and the IRS is now wanting to collect.  I tried filling out non-obligated spouse forms hoping that I would not have to be responsible for his debt.  I found out that you pretty much have to be divorced to not be held responsible.  My husband does not see paying the IRS as a high priority and has not followed through with the payment arrangement he set up with the IRS.  I also had him sign an agreement with me saying he

I'm one of those apparent rarities; a husband with an ADHD wife (perhaps because husbands typically spend less time researching relationships than wives do).

What I am finding to be unfailingly true in my relationship with my ADHD husband is that you have GOT to learn to be adaptable--if nothing else.  I have had a hard time coming to terms with that and I have spent the better part of my marriage so far being uptight and worrying and freaking out about every little thing that didn't go the way I planned.  I have been a constant nervous wreck until recently.  Now I am learning to relax and take things as they come, and with a grain of salt when I can.  I try to have a sense of humor when my husband does or says something crazy instead of blowing

I just need to vent for a second . . . I am so tired of hubby referring to every conversation he can't recall or remembers incorrectly as a "miscommunication." It makes me feel like he's saying there was something wrong with the way I communicated something, and most of the time there isn't. We'll have a conversation, make a plan, whatever an be on the same page. We're even in the habit now of having him say an outline of the plan or conversation to help cement it for him.

My husband has (yet) undiagnosed ADD.  It's been 4 weeks since I handed him a list of symptoms and asked him what he thought...  This past year has been awful.  I believe that his ADD was masked as laziness until then but the changes and difficulties we've faced in this year and especially him being without regular work have really brought it out.  If we didn't have children (a toddler and one on the way) I would have probably left already.  When I started researching ADD I was actually quite excited.  I had tried all sorts of things to improve our marriage but nothing seemed to work and I