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First of all, I want to say thank you to Dr. Hallowell and Melissa Orlov for such an incrediby helpful site.

I am an ADHD spouse. I am 39 and have been married to my wife for 15 years. I was diagnosed with very mild Asperger's Syndrome (AS) at the age of 37 and then at 38 my therapist suggested I may have NLD instead. Bottom line: Both I and my doctors believe  that I am somewhere on the "high end" of the autism spectrum and until about 5 months ago, all of my treatments and coping strategies focused on that.

I am not done with the relationship.  I'm done with life.  I am a ADD spouse.  Until I read this column I had no idea that I caused so much pain in the life of others around me.  My entire marriage I have tried to please my wife.  I do not go out with friends, I devote my entire non working life to her.  I have distanced myself from my narcissistic mother, left my business partners due to my hyperfocus at work, so I could spend more time with my spouse.  I have tried to change my sex life, to accomodate her needs.  I have tried to put the family first in all my life.  I am utterly unsucessf

I am in a relationship with a partner who I have known for almost 20 years and recently (4 years ago) we decided to become romantically involved. We've been living together for a little over a year and it's been a difficult transition for both of us.

Hi everyone-I'm new to the forum. I'm ordering some books and beginning to search for help/treatment after having to diagnose my husband myself (isn't that the way these relationships tend to go??? If it's going to be done, you've got to do it yourself???)

I'm reading "Living with ADD When You're Not the One Who Has It".   One statement hit me square between the eyes...."Some people with attention deficit disorder tend to seek stimulation in the form of conflict".  I know that there are just times when my husband has approached me to "pick a fight".....no reason.  Now I see that he was looking for a stimulus.  After many years of fighting back, I began to see that he just wanted to fight and tried my best to not take the bait.  That's hard because he knows all of my "hot buttons" and is a very good manipulator.  I guess he's learned that he c

Background: Relationship for 2.5 yrs. Lots in common and we were together or else email and talking on the phone. We had a strong attraction to each other. We were eachothers support. He started his own green company that keeps him stressed literally 24/7. His job is his life. Diagnosed with ADD a year ago. Takes Ritalin. He has read books like Driven to Distraction, but unfortunately, during our relationship, we never discussed how this Diagnosis impacts us.

I'm new here and going through the same issues many of you are currently or have previously.

My husband and I have been married 5 years. The relationship was rocky and drama-filled from day 1. He was verbally abusive and at times physically threatening (he never hit me, but broke things). He cheated on me repeatedly. He used drugs and drank too much. He was addicted to pornography. He has been marginally employed or unemployed for the entire time we've been together, despite us being in dire financial straits at times.

Hi Everybody (or whoever reads this!) My wife & I (bless her) have been married 47 years in Oct09. Now that's some distance you'll have to agree! For some time now, my long-suffering wife has contended that I suffer from ADHD and that I need to receive some sort of treatment. Now, I'm not averse to treatment ... in fact I may love it! But AM I REALLY suffering ADHD, or am I suffering from the trauma of being over 65 years of age (or at the time her comments started ... was I suffering the trauma of being over 45 years of age?)

I'm new here on this forum.  I'm 45, married 20 years with 2 children.  I was tested and diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago and was on adderall XR for most of that time.  About 10 months ago, my dr changed me to regular Adderall because I was having trouble sleeping at night.  I've also been on focalin for about 10 months for anxiety/depression.  My problem with the ADHD is that I was constantly jumping from thing to thing, I could not finish a project if my life depended on it.  Well, I could if it was due the next day and then I'd stay up all night gettig it done.  The adderall seemed to