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I am so grateful to have found this website. Reading about everyone's individual experiences has been incredibly affirming. I know my post is going to be a long one but I am desperate to hear from others in the same situation and to figure out what factors are ADD related and which are just my husband.

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Hi Everyone, 

I stumbled on this site as I was looking for information about emotional abuse in marriages. My husband has mentioned that he thinks he could have add, but when we talk about it, he feels like he's being blamed for the problems in our marriage.

My husband and I have been married for 15 months.  He is a wonderful, kind, caring man.  He is just so forgetful and disorganized.  I have to tell him what to do constantly.  He cannot for the life of him, straighten, clean, or help around the house without guidance.  I did not know all this about him when I married him.  Everyone should live with a person for a little while before they marry them and then there wouldn't be this problem.  He has been driving me crazy the whole time we have been married.  He forgets whole conversations that we have had.  He is the most disorganized person I

I do not have ADD and my husband does. He has known he has ADD for over 10 years and, although he has tried meds in the past, he is not currently taking any. We are in couples counseling (our counselor does not specialize in ADD) but he refuses to go to individual counseling.

I'll try to make this brief but this site has been so helpful!  I met a wonderful man, 50 years old (I am 40), 1.5 years ago, we got engaged about 6 months ago and the wedding is in 8 weeks.  We are both divorced, have children.  He is a brilliant man, skipped grades in school, a surgeon with his own practise. 

Earlier this week, my husband of nearly four years left me. He's been saying for ages that he's miserable, but couldn't communicate anything in an understandable way. It was all very nebulous, and I could tell he was really suffering and really frustrated. So was I, but I knew why I was unhappy--I felt like I wasn't married to a husband.

Hi there,

I found a great book.  Alone in Marriage by Susie Larson.  I bought it a couple of years ago just because of the title.  Is there anyone married to someone with ADHD that doesn't feel alone some of the time or all of the time?  She writes "My purpose isn't to improve your marriage or even change your spouse."  I think every other book I've ever read was trying to do one or the other.  She has a section on "Weights that Wear You Down" with chapters on anger, worry, fear, and self-pity.  I found myself re-reading the chapter that corresponded with each changing feeling during the last couple

I have said this a number of times over the last decade, but am now truly at the end of my rope.  I need to set an ultimatum.  Either my husband sees a physician to get help for his ADHD or we need to get divorced.  Here is a bit of background.  He was told as a child that he had ADHD and I don’t think it was ever properly treated as his mother chalks it off to bad behavior and laziness.  I grew up with a brother who was diagnosed with it in the early 70’s (he was 5) and had all the support and care in the world for it.  I have witnessed the positive side of living with it

I have made the decision to leave and let me tell you, it's almost refreshing to know it's not about ADHD.