Attacking Inconsistency of Focus in ADD Marriages
Are you angry that your ADD spouse is able to focus on something of great interest to him, and not to anything you want him to do (like the dishes, or childcare)? If so, you would not be alone.
Are you angry that your ADD spouse is able to focus on something of great interest to him, and not to anything you want him to do (like the dishes, or childcare)? If so, you would not be alone.
This show with Dr. Hallowell has been taped but we do not know the air date. It is not the week of May 4th, as previously thought. We will post the air date here when we are given it, or you can go to the Dr. Phil Show web site each weekend for a list of the upcoming week's show topics. Thanks for your patience on this - t.v. often works this way! Comments for this post are disabled as of May 3.
Hi, Ned Hallowell here. I noticed questions about being distracted during sex. I saw some great suggestions, from Melissa and others. Let me add one more thought.
Hello! Ned Hallowell here. I wanted to address a theme I see in MANY posts, and in my practice all the time. It is the problem of the husband who refuses to entertain that he might have ADD, that he might be contributing to the marital problems, that he might benefit from a consultation with an expert.
For info on the Dr Phil Show, please see the more recent March 30 post. I didn't erase this spot because people had posted attachments to it which would have disappeared had I eliminated the post all together.
If you are in a marriage in which one spouse has ADHD and the other does not, I will guarantee you that you are both even more different than you think. Your brains works differently, you experience the world around you differently, and you interpret information differently. By understanding how, you can avoid common communication errors that lots of “mixed” couples make as well as learn to treasure your unique abilities.
Great news! Dr. Hallowell and his wife, Sue (who is a social worker and experienced marriage therapist in her own right) are going to give a special marriage weekend June 20-21 in Boston specifically for couples where one or both parthers has ADHD/ADD. They will limit it to 25 couples total, and the sessions will include teaching, coaching, small group work...plus a nice hotel. They've just written a new marriage workbook that they will be giving to participants to take home, too.