Adults who might have ADHD often have mixed feelings about seeking an evaluation. Some are concerned about being blamed for marital problems, others about confronting difficult feelings such as shame about past performance. Here’s why it’s worth it, anyway.
Dr. Ned Hallowell is doing a documentary about ADHD and is looking for women who have not yet been diagnosed, but think they might have ADHD. If you would like to be filmed for his documentary, then please contact his assistant, Dianne, to see if you might qualify. You can reach her at [email protected]. The producers will screen you to see if you are appropriate for their project.
Katie, a 30-year-old journalist, has ADHD and her husband does not. In her first blog for ADHD and Marriage, she talks about life before and after receiving her diagnosis at 29 years old, and the moment she realized her marriage could be saved.
Are you tired of having your partner point to your ADHD as the source of your marital problems? I heard this today from a frustrated ADHD client, and it's a common refrain. Does the label actually matter? Is the ADHD the source of the issues? If you are working with a counselor (like me) who specializes in ADHD, does this put too much emphasis on ADHD? It's a legitimate concern that I would like to discuss here.
Welcome to the viewers from the Dr Phil Show, as well as other newcomers to this site. There is a lot here, so we suggest you start with the blog posts. Some of the "favorites" are under "Melissa's Favorite Posts" in the top right corner, or you can explore by area of concern in the "categories" area. The site also has a forum where people with concerns share them. Many find it reassuring that others share their issues but please understand that the forum is biased by the fact that those who have found this (unadvertised) site often seek it out because their marriage is in deep trouble.