Yes, that sounds like a sales pitch...but it's not. Happiness is good for our brains and good for handling stress better - in marriages, if you are feeling upbeat you are more likely to be able to take some bumps in the road. If you're feeling down, pretty much everything seems grim. Here's a link to a UTube TED talk on happiness that will not only make you laugh out loud, it also has a very important message about happiness. I urge you to watch it...and also to try two exercises. Some of my clients have done these and all but one have found it helpful in diminishing their struggle. First, take 2-3 minutes a day to write down three new things about which you are grateful. These don't have to be about your relationship - anything at all for which you are grateful. Then, take 5 more minutes (or more if you like) and journal about one of those things in a positive way. Do this for three weeks straight and see what happens. I think you'll like the results. (For more tips, see the video...!)
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 01/17/2013.