Sometimes you can lose yourself in a struggling relationship. It can be helpful to stop thinking about your relationship and take a moment to reconnect with what you love about yourself.
It’s my birthday today, so I’ve been thinking about how to celebrate…and decided that sitting down and thinking for a few moments about who I am, and what I like about myself, might be a good way to frame my day. As I went through the exercise, I realized how infrequently I think about my strengths. Too much to do, too many other people to think about…life just seems to get in the way. And when you and your partner are struggling, doesn’t it seem as if you spend a lot of time thinking about “us” rather than “me?”
It was a great way to start my day, and I strongly recommend you consider sitting quietly to think, journaling on the topic, or taking a good friend out and exploring it together (she can give you additional encouragement!) And, I can honestly say that there were a few things that I identified where I thought “I used to be like that, but not so much any more…” Since those were aspects of myself that I genuinely appreciated, it makes sense to dedicating the next year or so to figuring out how to relocate them.
How about you? What do you love about you?