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Is a huge step forward for me. The ability to experience my normal triggers without reacting is really a big deal. It's not about containing or controlling the feelings that are uncontrollable....it's more, that you don't have those emotions ( feelings ) in the first place, or they're reduced so much, they're almost under the radar.

We are about to "  Celebrate our 54th year of loving marriage but these last few months of this year have presented stress and depression between  us. There has been no communication or joyance experiences between us like all the years before. We have become introverted and  agoraphobic   that we never go out together anymore. I buy her things for holidays, manage day to day expenses, help with anything she wishes but her face and demure remain sad.  In our teens, a tickle and dinner out would replace any short term depression.

Am having an emotional meltdown at my relative’s holiday house, where my severe ADD partner and I have spent a lot of time as a family. The house and surroundings are a huge trigger now.

I feel this moment (crying my heart out) like shit for how he’s treated me and for what’s happened to other relations as a consequence. I don’t know how to live, I don’t know how to protect myself, but perhaps I should try to avoid him altogether, like never see him for children’s events or anything else?

My house is clean :)...And empty!!! Yes!!!.....It took her months to move her stuff. Most of it in the last 50 days, because she (as usual) always plays and justifies waiting to the last minute...No dopamine in doing it orderly, and early, now is it...lol....After she left, I have had probably 5000 pounds of (garbage) stuff to get rid of...I'm about finished, (maybe a few drawers)...I can walk around and I have ton's of room in the house and shop!!

Hello all, 

Read a recent thread about whether to stay in a difficult ADHD relationship or leave. 

To me it seems ADHD partners can be well-intended but functionally dishonest, inconsistent and dismissive of their partner’s needs. Kind and loyal. But then do these immensely destructive, even hateful, things when challenged.

At least for me it’s been the obvious good intentions of my ex husband that’s made staying reasonable for decades. 

I'm revisiting Carl Jung and his teachings lately. I'm connecting with them more than ever, which for me, speaks to the place I'm in, in my own self discovery. 

It's been a while since my last post but I've come on here and there for somw comfort and relevancy....but im stuck guys. Really stuck. Its dawned on me that everyday I'm triggered and it's my husband that triggers me. And to walk through life this on edge is not the life for me at all. I don't want this life anymore. I want a better marriage or I want out. I know this but I cant seem to get myself unstuck...even a little bit.