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I’m writing to describe what I went through with my ADHD wife through my serious illness. When it was finally diagnosed that I had to have heart valve replacement surgery my wife’s oblivious cruel streak came out. All this happened before we knew, at age 58, that she is very likely ADHD. Anyway, the very evening after getting home from the hospital, having undergone diagnostic angiography, she tells me that she doesn't want to deal with my ‘anxiety’ around the whole thing and that she was looking at apartments and possibly moving out.

Hello everyone I'm Ron 

It's been 7 months since I've asked my husband to move out of our apartment to try a therapeutic separation. Aggressiveness was really high (shouting at me and at our 4 year-old kid,...) and I thought that was the last resort to try and save our marriage... 

New here and this is my first post...

I am a non- ADHD spouse and have been struggling terribly in my marriage the past 5 to 6 years. I have been stuck in a cycle of manipulation by my husband and he has not been willing to address any of it. I believe he is a good person, but he manipulates me, violates my privacy and we do not trust each other. I won’t list all the details...

Does any of this trigger anything for any of you spouses of ADDers? It was part of an article in The Atlantic.   

Hi everyone,

I found a tiny but affordable place to rent and I signed a lease. I'm moving out in 2 weeks. I bought a dependable car. It made me sad. I returned it yesterday. I'm buying a convertible today. I may have lost my mind. But I am happy and I feel free. ❤ Last night I realized that I have so much more energy lately because I am no longer managing his life for him. I send him one text a day re: our child's schedule. I no longer remind him about anything else. I no longer spend hours researching and  reading about strategies to help him with his executive function issues. I am not healed yet.

I’ve posted here before, but only a couple of times. My wife has ADD. We’ve been married for 20 years and we battled her ADD ever since. As we get older, she’s 68 and I’m 70, her ADD is getting much worse, as well as her denial, forgetfulness, inattention, lack of compassion, messy ness, etc.  I owned my consulting business before we married and she gladly came into the business and took over the accounting. Very, very often she simply cannot get herself going.

Hi all,

I had a miscarriage on mother's day this year. I'm 34 and I never thought I wanted to be a mother so badly after it. I am with an adhd man, known him for 10 years and we've been together for almost 8. Now, after the miscarriage I've been wanting to see that same desired to want a child in him, but whenever I asked he would only answer "whenever you want we can start to get it on". But I was never like "I want one to with you", he is waiting for my comand and it makes me feel uncomfortable knowing this. Last night we had a talk again about haveing kids.