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I have never been one to value power, prefering to value love and sacrifice more.  But I am learning that was my undoing.  I have been making it my project to understand power and how a person needs to be aware of it. The following is an article from Psychology Today that helps me to see where I have been part of the problem of my own resentment and sadness.  I think this is important to be aware of.  So some of us may stop crying and start to work on our self esteem and .....oooh, I had always hated this word....POWER. It seems selfish to me.

Hi all, I've recently joined as some of the posts I've read seemed to be really helpful. 

Im currently partner to someone who was diagnosed  ADHD from a very young age. When we had first met I was aware of his ADHD, but it didn't seem a problem, it was exciting fun and we got on so well! As time has gone on it seems to be alot more of a struggle for us/me. I have ADHD in my family too so it didn't bother me much, however I've realised as time has gone on and the more emotionally involved you get it's much more of a struggle. 

weve been together for 16 years and we've had the rollercoaster ride many have. He's been diagnosed and medicated but little else has changed. We have 2 lovely children . Over the years I've been back and forth with understanding, tolerance, fear, anger, frustration. I've been supportive and understanding and have read as much as I can about ADHD and tried my utmost to be the best I can for us all. 

Hi all,

my names stu. I bought the book for couples today and found out about this website. I could really do with some help from anyone who might be going through what I am going through right now.

Basically ive suspected ive had ADHD all my life, i was sort of diagnosed with it a few years ago. Im 39 now, I live in Liverpool in the UK and, sadly, my marriage has failed.

My wife of 10 years has anxiety, depression, and ADHD. We have three children, one has been diagnosed and one seems to have ADHD but has not yet been diagnosed. 

Hi, my partner was diagnosed with ADHD and was on medication and seeking help before I met him. He changed jobs during our relationship and chose to come off the meds as he was no longer covered with private health insurance.

We now have terrible rows. He goes from 0-100 in the space of a few seconds. Then he is like a dog with a bone. He won’t stop ranting. It’s awful. He’s not very good at empathising either or reflecting. 

The reason I’m still here is because he is incredibly lovely. He has changed so much over our time together in a good way. 

in case anyone is looking for a last minute Christmas gift idea, I just found the perfect one for my ADHD husband, that I think will also help our relationship! haha

I’ll just start by saying I’m in therapy and I have been.  My plan is to tell my therapist Thursday that  we need to start working on my anger/frustration/resentment exclusively for a while.

The reason for that is that my husband made a relatively minor forgetful omission, and we had words about it at the dinner table.   Our 3 year old said “Mommy punishing you, Daddy” which broke my heart. We don’t even punish our son so I’m not sure where he got that.  We usually try not to have discussion in front of him.