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What is the most difficult part (or what seems to inflict the most long term negative impact on your mindset and emotions) of your lives, when it comes to the effects on you, in seeking to live in a peaceful way w/ your spouse?? 

For me it's (hands down) the emotional and psychological effects I experience on my person, from her denial...Denial always produces the same attributes in a mind...No ownership of actions, self-justification and blame....

Let me start off by saying that my niece is OKAY, our dog didn't actually bite her, he jumped on her and scratched her. He is now at a training facility for a couple of weeks and my niece is learning how to interact with dogs safely. we're glad nothing worse happened...

I was diagnosed with ADHD just after my 41st birthday, and I am close to turning 44. At first, the diagnosis and treatment brought relief and understanding to a lifetime of struggling, anger, and lost relationships. I read every book about ADHD that I could, applied behavioral and medicinal treatment (and still do), drastically improved my diet, and worked with an ADHD coach (who said, "Stop reading books about ADHD.").

It's been a long and difficult road; this marriage relationship of ours.  But like all good things...GOOD THING??...Yes,  (Proverbs 18:22..A man who finds a wife, finds a good thing), like I was saying, before I was interrupted :) lol... like all good things, it also has it's trials...We humans just tend to reflect the images in front of us...Especially those that are there constantly...It's human weakness...No man's an Island....

Having only recently read "The ADHD Effect on Marriage" I am currently working through the anger and resentment that has built up over 20 years and 17 years of diagnosed and untreated ADHD.  The book has helped me understand my responses to ADHD symptoms and the significant impact they've had on our relationship, but there is one concept I am struggling with...the idea that "I respect my spouse's inherent right to make his or her own decisions and live by the consequences, whether I like what what he or she is doing."   My wife already lives with many of the consequences of her actions that

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD 4 years ago and has yet to get past the denial stage. I could list all of the reasons I should not be with him anymore but in the end it doesn't matter.  All that matters is that I love him and want him to be happy and healthy.

He has started and stopped Aderall 4 or 5 times now and never sticks more thank a week or 2.  He kept a journal for about 3 days for symptom tracking.  We did Melissa's counselling and he has tried counselling on his own.  Nothing lasts more than a week or 2.

Last night, my wife and I were discussing her exist plan after going over to the home of a friend she is moving in with.  As we are able to speak more openly now, I am really listening to the things she is saying which just fits to what I know but now in a new potential situation?  When I asked about her new place, she was very focused on the dogs at her new abode.  She hasn't even moved in yet, and she already focused and worried about the dogs there.

Once again I've caught my husband lying.  His addictive behavior and lies have destroyed our marriage.  I'm tired of the same song and dance.  He is only remorseful when he is caught.  I can't continue to live in fear of what my husband is doing and know I can't trust him.  I am seriously considering moving out.  My husband works long hours and if I move out, he will see our son even less than he does now.  In a way I feel this could be good, because as soon as I leave, he will drown his sorrows in booze and destructive behavior.  I am feeling guilty knowing that I will be changing my son's

Hello. This is the first time I am posting in a forum, but I am desperate. My marriage is falling apart. I was diagnosed with ADHD about 10 years ago. I take vyvanse. This has helped greatly in a lot of Areas. My problem is I never did research on the effects of ADHD in marriage. My wife and I fight all the time and I never new why till I read a lot of these blogs. I am devastated it is my fault. I don't know if i can repair the damage with my wife. I realize now the hurt I caused her with all my quirks and forgetfulness and anger and such. I am at a loss.

I'm new here and really struggling. My husband and I have been together since high school and I love him very much. We have 2 kids and I genuinely want our marriage to survive. I have always thought that he was a bit different, and, over he past year I have come to realise that his symptoms match exaptly to those of ADHD. For the sake of our marriage I need to speak to him about it. He needs treatment as his untreated symptoms are causing huge problems in our marriage. I feel very down. How do I broach this subject with I'm?