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Hi.  I am new to the group. Married for 15 years 3 children together for 20.  All these years I thought my husband was being an a@@hole.  I finally asked him for a separation because I felt I was crazy.  Mostly because that what he told me.  Finally went to a therapist on my own and he followed suite.  Discovered he has ADD. I thought I can do this but do not think I can. This is all too much.  I feel like he got in an accident and is now a different person.  I find myself even getting angry at my therapist for telling me this is not his fault and I have to give him less responsibility.

What happen's when we find ourselves in relationships that aren't pleasing to us? I found something a few years ago that brought light to my pain. It was something that turned my focus inward, and upward...It was something that saved me from Blame, Anger and Frustration (except the  days and nights I fall prey to my own carnal thinking, and find myself backsliding into being a victim again)....Because it told me "WHY" I was suffering...And; as hard as it was (and is) for me to admit my brokenness in this area...I eventually realized this was the foolish road I was own...

Hi! My name is Jessica and I e been married to my ADHD husband for over three years now. He was diagnosed at a young age, and I, too, was diagnosed with ADHD as well as Aspergers. I've been reading "the ADHD effect on marriage" and it feels like the book was written about us. I was wondering though if anyone else here, particularly non-ADHD spouses, has been diagnosed with Aspergers? I feel like having Aspergers magnifies some of these symptoms times ten. I misunderstand a LOT; I take many things just as they are said to me; very literally.

One of the best feelings in the world is knowing your presence and absence both mean something to someone.

So, given that, it seems H has from the beginning not noticed or cared about my presence or absence, even that my absence is preferable to H, doesn't that mean that I should go? I feel like I have been ignored for over 40 years.  That has done a number on my ego and confidence.

Given that I have come lately to defensively ignore H and have a difficult time having him near, doesn't that mean that I should go?

Hello.

He's fighting me tooth and nail. From begging to attacking to generally being obtuse. I've tried explaining several different ways about why he needs to move out. I can no longer take the financial hits, the passive-aggressive attacks, the piles of dirty laundry, cleaning up after his plethora of pets, the trash left everywhere but in the trash can... after six years, I just can't anymore...

I've been with my husband 17 years.  I feel like it's always been some issue or another.  I feel like I am the only responsible one.  I feel like he can't be trusted with anything significant.  I feel alone.  I feel he has little empathy for what he does to me.  I feel like he has put me through hell and I hate who I am now.  I am an angry, resentful, paranoid person because of his behavior.  This weekend, I found out yet again, he was allowing porn to creep into his life.  He has a sponsor and goes to SAA.  I knew he was starting to look at things again and gave him the opportunity to tell

The stress of our first baby landed us in a couple's psychiatrist, where I was diagnosed with ADHD. After being undiagnosed and untreated for 10 years, I can understand my wife's frustration. But her attitude reads as "I didn't sign up for this" and she does not want to participate or collaborate with my treatment. She doesn't want to go to therapy anymore and she is unwilling to read a single book on couples and ADHD (arguing she is doing her PhD and doesn't have time for that).

I know that is a weird kind of off the wall way to title a post in the section called "Progress and Hope"...since, in my personal opinion based on my own experience with a bonifide Narcissist ( amongst a host of other personal problems he has ) as it appears, many are not in disagreement with that assessment including myself (and even in the opinion of the attitudes expressed on this forum as well )  This makes for a fascinating case study in human socio-psychological phenomenon that is really easy to see?  As I have experienced this myself, if you want to see the worst in people, come out