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What’s your current story, and how does it make you feel? If it doesn’t make you feel good when you tell it, then stop telling it. Instead, tell a story that makes you feel inspired and positive. Maybe you haven’t found your calling yet and feel as if every day is ground hog day. You can change that.......The Tiny Budha online

Has anyone else experienced irritability and anger with Vyvanse that my ADHD spouse is exhibiting? How long do I hold out for him to try a different medicine?

My partner and I have been together for 4 years.  We recently bought a house together.   He told me when we met that he was depressed...but I've seen him joyous so many times!  And I knew he was a slob and a procrastinator-- I thought typically male.  He was the first non-outgoing type I'd ever been with; he was quiet and shy and did sometimes disagree with a topic (which meant that was it, no conversation or give and take, no stimulating intellectual jousts).

"Why" for me seems to mean everything for me. It almost seems as if...it is the foundation from which I know anything: what to do, why to do it, how to do it, and when to do it and where to do it. It's almost as if.... If I can't can't understand why...then it seems I can't understand anything? It just seems that way to me but I also know that's not always true...as I'm saying it. Getting past the why for me at times....seems to be the biggest challenge I have to getting past most of the obstacles I've faced in dealing with this "why" issue I have. Why, why, why!!!! I need to know why!!!

What was my role?  

I played the emotional patsy, the lonely child, the reproaching parent (to him), the desperate powerless woman. He played the naughty, willful child, the playboy, the salesman, the clown, the Devil May Care imp, light relief, the rebel, the entitled man.

I cried, I shouted, I tried for meaningful conversations. He left the room. He verbally attacked. He was mute holding court of his entitlement he gave himself because he WON the battles.  I was like a tiny country crying, "No Fair", he brushed my needs aside and laughed.

This is an update to my thread from 18 months ago, found here. https://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/apathy-setting

Hello, I am a male, 26 years old non ADHD . Currently i'm in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend . She is 26 years old with ADHD . I will tell the story about my GF first . She has lived alone for 7 years because her parents works overseas and never come back in the past few years . She doesn't have many friends . Her only close friend is a girl, 30 years old with ADHD too, currently not married and never been in a relationship with anybody . We have been in relationship for almost 7 months .

So my family is going through a crisis. Long story very very short, my daughter was sexually taken advantage of, and now, she thinks she may be pregnant from that encounter. Shes a great kid, and is going through a very scary, very upsetting time right now.

 

My husband is being a complete jerk, as usual. His feelings are the most important things in the world right now, and while i understand that stress makes everyone on edge, he is actively antagonizing me. Apparently i dont have enough on my plate!

 

In the interest of full disclosure, I must admit that I found this site because I was creeping on my ADHD husband.  More specifically, I was searching (and frantically I might add) variations on a screen name that I found earlier that day connected to email accounts, connected to dating/porn/sex sites.  This is one of the sites that popped up, and by the way, as if I needed to feel anymore like Alice going down the rabbit hole, I saw that his ex-wife had posted and directed my husband to this site while they were married!