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Mansplaining: When you're talking to prove expertise rather than to connect with another person, the chances are high you're mansplaining.

Saw another (awful) therapist last night.  Ugh.  Trying so hard to stay within my insurance network because it would be a financial hardship not to.  But, these people are not ADHD experts.  Or anger management experts.  They say things like "Count to 10" or "just breathe" when my husband talks about his inability to stop an outburst.  That doesn't help him.  We want so badly to stay together, but now we are starting to use words like "separation".  That scares the hell out of me!!!  And I'm the one who brought up that word.  Because, after 13 years of marriage, I am spent.

I am dating a man with ADHD, and we have been together almost 9 months. Some of the posts I've read here are heartbreaking. My boyfriend is not currently on medications, but has been in the past. He said he went to a behavioral therapist some years back and it helped him greatly, He is very organized, sticking to his routines every day. He is good with money, tracks his spending closely, and seems quite organized. The only issues we have had disagreements about are his talking too much, and in great detail about other people in his life be it family, co workers or women from his past. He is

I have been toying with the idea of a separation/divorce from my ADHD husband for a few months now but I can't seem to come to a solid conclusion. We have been married nearly 4 years, together 6. He is a generous, kind man and a fun person to hang out with.  When we met, he had all kinds of dreams and ambitions for the future, which I mistakenly took as realistic and achievable plans.

If you knew everything you would go through, would you still have made the choice to stay?

I have lurked for months, coming here to read when I needed to feel like I wasn't alone and also to get perspective. I will often read about the challenges some of you face and think to myself, "I can't post here. Things aren't bad enough and my complaints will be insulting to those who have real issues." I've finally decided to post because I can't hold it in anymore. I have to talk to someone. This will be long and I hope at least one person will be patient enough to read it.

Dear all,

NICE AND HAPPY to JOIN THIS FORUM.

I WOULD LIKE TO ASK IF SOMEONE KNOW THIS SITUATION: Husband with ADHD and wife HSP. What to do? What works? I am new in this FORUM and I have just discovered it.

Thank You so much. 

 

Hello I am a non ADHD partner. I came to this forum for some encouragement and some insight. I so rarely see any post of positivity and it's very discouraging. Yes I understand that being the non ADHD partner can be frustrating and there is little to be understood when you aren't living in at they live everyday. I have had my moments where I want to cry, but it's because I want to understand and I can't. I am not in his head everyday to even fathom what struggles he faces every single day. i can only imagine how frustrated they become when I can't understand what is going on.  But I try .

We have been married for 13 years and my husband has ADHD-inattentive type. It is like living with an Alzheimer's patient. Scary part is his mother past away from Alzheimer's.

Hello all, I've been seeing this guy for about a month, and we've been exclusive a couple weeks. In the beginning I was blown away by the attention and sensitivity he showed towards me. Our connection felt otherworldly, it was like love at first sight, something I had never experienced before and was never expecting to find. He told me pretty much right from the start about his ADHD, in addition to depression, and I didn't give it much thought. I guess I was incredibly ignorant. My perception of ADD/ADHD was of the rambunctious child in the classroom who couldn't sit still.