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I have ADHD and General Anxiety Disorder. I have had to learn so much about these disorders just recently as no one properly educated me nor did I receive counseling for these when entering high school. Only now ten years after high school do I feel fully informed. Thank you to Melissa Orlov books as well as other materials I have studied. Unfortunately, I went off medication because I was doing so well in graduate school, so thought I did not need meds anymore for ADHD.

When H starts a tantrum or drama-fest, my solution is to grab my purse and leave.  If I don't leave, the anger towards me escalates, even though I'm often not the reason for his anger, but I'm "there" so I become the target.

 

Yesterday, H had a series of annoying things go on:

 

1)  had to drive 300 miles round trip to see his doctor.

 

I've made it a goal of mine the past several months to be much more self-aware when it comes to engaging my wife with any kind of expectation. I'm not saying I don't have them, but, I'm making an effort to not attach any negative emotion to them and when I share my feelings, I'm trying to do it in calm tones ONCE:) and only when I have her attention, and only when she is calm and listening....It has been very fruitful for our communications, which has always been very limited at best....

Hubby was diagnosed a year or so ago and pursuing medication but it's not going well.  I haven't seen any improvement in him at all since we have learned of his disorder and began seeking treatment and counseling.  He is seeing a therapist and so am I.  We have been together 22 years.  About 10 years ago, I told him that whatever the hell was wrong with him was slowly but surely erooding my love and respect for him.  I feel that's where I am at.  I feel no romantic love for him at all.  I have no respect for him at all.  His shortcomings in taking care of things as well as his social anxiet

Wow, I think I just threw my DH out of the apartment. Now, I'm not quite sure what to do.

He probably thinks I threw I threw him out for forgetting to look at the calendar, or forgetting a date that's important to me AGAIN, but that not really the reason.

Here's the thing, there are 8 days a year that are important to me, That I'd love him to remember, That I don't even have to write on the Calendar because they are already ON the calendar !

Recently diagnosed with Adult, moderate ADHD, mixed variety.  One of my friends has been going to Al-Anon for 15 years and told me it really helps him.   Has anyone else experienced success with being in an Al-Anon group?

My husband has ADHD and anxiety and depression.  He chose to become his elderly parents' full-time, 24/7 caregiver a few years ago.  Bad idea.  The depression has gotten worse.  I'm concerned about him.  He's resistant to getting help.  Last night, I looked up mental health clinics in the town where he lives with his parents (150 miles from our home, his old therapist, etc.).  This morning, I called him and said that I am strongly encouraging him to get mental health treatment and that I would be mailing him information.

There's a lot of back story here, but this weekend I took the kids to my friends house 8 hours away so that my husband could finish some projects left over from a disastrous professional remodel that was left unfinished 3 years and $80,000 ago. He had 4 days to paint the kitchen and some trimwork, build a railing for the back porch, and scrub and seal the kitchen floor. That was all I was expecting him to do, but we discussed a few other small things he could do.