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I've made it a goal of mine the past several months to be much more self-aware when it comes to engaging my wife with any kind of expectation. I'm not saying I don't have them, but, I'm making an effort to not attach any negative emotion to them and when I share my feelings, I'm trying to do it in calm tones ONCE:) and only when I have her attention, and only when she is calm and listening....It has been very fruitful for our communications, which has always been very limited at best....

Hubby was diagnosed a year or so ago and pursuing medication but it's not going well.  I haven't seen any improvement in him at all since we have learned of his disorder and began seeking treatment and counseling.  He is seeing a therapist and so am I.  We have been together 22 years.  About 10 years ago, I told him that whatever the hell was wrong with him was slowly but surely erooding my love and respect for him.  I feel that's where I am at.  I feel no romantic love for him at all.  I have no respect for him at all.  His shortcomings in taking care of things as well as his social anxiet

Wow, I think I just threw my DH out of the apartment. Now, I'm not quite sure what to do.

He probably thinks I threw I threw him out for forgetting to look at the calendar, or forgetting a date that's important to me AGAIN, but that not really the reason.

Here's the thing, there are 8 days a year that are important to me, That I'd love him to remember, That I don't even have to write on the Calendar because they are already ON the calendar !

Recently diagnosed with Adult, moderate ADHD, mixed variety.  One of my friends has been going to Al-Anon for 15 years and told me it really helps him.   Has anyone else experienced success with being in an Al-Anon group?

My husband has ADHD and anxiety and depression.  He chose to become his elderly parents' full-time, 24/7 caregiver a few years ago.  Bad idea.  The depression has gotten worse.  I'm concerned about him.  He's resistant to getting help.  Last night, I looked up mental health clinics in the town where he lives with his parents (150 miles from our home, his old therapist, etc.).  This morning, I called him and said that I am strongly encouraging him to get mental health treatment and that I would be mailing him information.

There's a lot of back story here, but this weekend I took the kids to my friends house 8 hours away so that my husband could finish some projects left over from a disastrous professional remodel that was left unfinished 3 years and $80,000 ago. He had 4 days to paint the kitchen and some trimwork, build a railing for the back porch, and scrub and seal the kitchen floor. That was all I was expecting him to do, but we discussed a few other small things he could do.

I found this site earlier tonight via Google searches. Searches like "husband is never wrong" "husband won't accept an opposing opinion because he's never wrong" "husband insists everyone is against him",  including wife and father in law who would never interfere unless it was a last resort and  oh the search list could go on and on.

My husband had a junior-high diagnosis of ADD that he blew off at the time--hey, every restless boy had ADD in the '90s, right?