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doea anyone else's spouse have trouble with work? My husband recently left working with family to pursue a better paying job he was quite capable of that he did in the past, wound up having serious issues working from home now... And since has had zero ambition to search for a job... He doesnt look online, doesn't go into town, doesnt utilize family connections... He just sits home with our dog and watches youtube videos all day... History stuff, conspiracy theories, online shows, etc. He just gets really defensive when i ask him what he did all day...

Hi everyone, I am new to this, and I am trying to find answers regarding my boyfriend's behavior and emotions.  We have been together 10 years, and at first he was too good to be true.  I had recently come out of an emotionally abusive 12 year marriage to a sex addict who was a compulsive liar, so after the divorce, i tried to find someone who was the polar opposite of him.  Now i am living with a whole set of other problems that seem to be escalating with each year...Instead of lying and cheating like my ex-H, my BF is angry pretty much all of the time, he HATES authority figures, delights

I know he's lying about little unimportant things he thinks don't matter. He makes plans and forgets to tell me and then pretends he's just made them. Why not just say "forgot to say I'm doing x tonight" Drives me mental and I don't appreciate being made to feel like I'm going mad when I ask why he's behaving strangely, which of course is yet another lie!!!! Gah. I know I'm not going mad and I know when I'm being lied to. I know this is a symptom. I've asked him why he's behaving sketchy and he just denies it. We've been together 13 years, I know when he's telling porkies.

Iv'e been doing research and lurking these forums for months. What better way to hear the unspoken truth about ADHD? The suffering of so many people makes the reality painfully obvious. There is no happy ending with ADHD. It's almost impossible for someone with ADHD to be successful, life is always a struggle, in almost everything. Basic living is hell. What kind of life is that, for anyone to live, or associate with? It isn't happy for anyone.

I wanted to share some more of my expereince in going on a short vacation with my wife, her brother, her friend (Dee for difficult) and myself at the beach over a long weekend.  For those who have not read my already leangthy account of my wife's freind (I am calling Dee)...you can go and look up my recent post that I made that gives more details of this person and what I observed about her (and the problems we all faced with her) while we were all staying together and communing so to speak and just trying to get along. 

I am 90% certain my soon-to-be ex has ADHD.  Our daughter was diagnosed, years ago.  There is evidence of the anger and anxiety that seem to go along with ADHD, in him.  All the hints were there for him to be self-aware of his ADHD (i.e. hello?  your daughter has been diagnosed?) but his ego was too big for him to have any self-awareness.  He had an affair and now wants a divorce.

Hi, this is my first post.

 

People spend a lots of money after the marriage has been consummated in an effort to quote "Get along". Why not do the work prior to getting to close to another person. Which, my guess, 

drops your ability to make an educated choice by any where from 20% to 95% depending on your make up.

Since people or all different it is probably better to have an idea of what type person you match up with the best, so you goal of a workable and satisfying marriage relationship want be hindered by so many differences...

My boyfriend of 1 yr (we're in our 40s) wants to keep searching just in case he finds a woman who might give him instant "in love" feelings. He says he wants to make sure he doesn't make a mistake by not continuing to look in case our relationship isn't the one. We have a great relationship otherwise...good communication, deep talks, romance, loving eye contact, great physical intimacy, honesty, and a lot in common. He says he loves me and wants us to be together but still wants to keep looking "just in case"