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Cleaning Day at My House

today I turn the tables on my bad habits and am going through all my unwanted stuff and getting rid of it.  I'm a little pissed off right now after my wife left for a meeting because when she gets back...she isn't going to like the mess I made. What I'm really angry is having to clean up her mess this time but its good anger and I'm motivated with a renewed spirit and full of energy!  I'm not afraid if she likes it or not!! It will be alright though because I love it that much.

Double shift and cranky spouse :(

Newbie here, I have looked and read through during hard times but today seems different. I came home from a double stressful shift at work, my ADHD spouse has cabin fever and instead of finding himself something to do waits for me to arrive home. He then gets even more cranky when he realises that he messed up with money AGAIN so we cnt actually go and so anything. All I want to do is come home, relax and have a "normal" evening. I am so tired. Why can't he just occupy himself without needing to have such a big focus on spending money??? Rant over!

What ADHD husband said last night made me cry.

Last night, when we went to bed, my ADHD husband suddenly said something to me "out of the blue", which first surprised me, then made me cry. It made me cry because I had longed to hear those words for over 32 years, and NOW he had come to a realization of something SO important. It was touching, and hurtful at the same time. But, I'm STILL glad he said it. It's so NICE to hear him say things that are REAL, and not "deflection", or denial, or dismissal.

New here

I'm so glad to have found this place. I am 31 yrs old, married and have 3 kids, expecting #4. I just found out this year that I have ADD. I haven't been officially diagnosed yet, as I don't have the money to get seen yet, but I know I would be diagnosed with no problem. I had always dismissed ADD as being a childhood condition that only really existed in people's heads. Then I heard a couple women talking about their ADD symptoms and it caused me to start thinking about it. I did lots of research and now I pretty much have an explanation for my entire child and adulthood.

ADHD and alcohol

This may be a dumb question, but I was wondering if there was any particular reason why so many people with ADHD struggle with alcohol and/or alcohol addiction? I know they can tend to have one or several addictions, but alcohol seems to be one that carries over to quite a few who have ADHD. Is it to quiet the mind? My ADHD husband's sister and brother (brother bi-polar and sister and alcoholic/  bi-polar undiagnosed) both had alcohol addictions. My husband is not ADDICTED to alcohol, but there are times I do think he does drink too much.

How heritable is ADD? Thinking about children...

New to this. Strongly suspect that my husband has ADD or an LD.  Strongly suspect this, based on his behaviour and the behaviour of his relatives. 

I feel so scared. Feel so sorry for DH.  I know he is suffering.  I love him dearly, he is the love of my life.  He is so loving. But many broken promises leave me feeling betrayed. So so scared that if we were to have children, I would have to watch them struggle with the same condition..it would just tear me apart.)  Also scared that I may never have any children, if I end my marriage.  Ashamed. Guilty.

ADHD Meds and Strange Behavior?

I was hoping to get some feedback from others about possible behavioral changes with ADHD stimulants. Ever since my husband started taking Vyvanse, his behavior is odd. In the morning he's groggy and out of it (more than usual or what is to be expected), but after he takes the meds he is calm and extremely focused and energetic. In the evening, he starts acting agitated, moody, almost paranoid, and...just strange. Up late, writing long letters that don't make sense, pacing, talking to himself, acting secretive and hostile towards me. I think it's the meds that are doing this.

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