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Hi all, I am looking for responses of ADHD and non-ADHD spouses. W/O a lot of detail let me just say that my husband has a very big tendency to forget things and an even bigger one to lie about it to cover it up. EXCEPT the lies never make sense so it's normally quite apparent to me that he is not being honest. After our usual  weekly blow-up (I know, this can't be healthy, right?) he says that I push him too hard.

 

Anyone else feel the same? I just had a huge fight with the ADHD spouse. He had been drinking and started pressing me about some things I've done recently. These things I've done to protect my self from the harmful things he does to me. I did my best to shrug off and skirt the issue but he wouldn't let it go. So, I tried to explain why I closed my Facebook and why I no longer slow photos of me to be anywhere. He makes me feel so ugly I'm not putting myself out there..and he was off. As norm, he's perfect and I'm crazy. I get so angry b3ing dismissed like that, I blow up.

In my endless quest to accept DH and the way he ACTUALLY is, not the way I WISH him to be, I have been thinking a lot about the stuff that makes me happy and trying to do those things more often.  Plus the fact that he travels Monday through Friday means I have a lot of time to do things on my own.

Based on what little I've read, there are more men with ADHD than women.  I guess that makes me a minority, any other men out there?  I am really struggling.  I have been married for almost 11 years, have a stepdaughter and two sons.  We went to counseling last summer  because I had threatened to leave if our non-existent, no wait, we did it three times in 2013 (and yes, I kept track!), sex life didn't improve.  At the first session, we were talking through some issues and counselor says to my wife, "Have you been tested for ADD?"  So there goes anything I was hoping to gain from counseling

Two weeks ago my ADHD husband woke me up at 2 a.m. to tell me that he had cheated on me two days prior. He says that he was very lonely, and he had been feeling this way for a few months – he says he missed me and the way our relationship was before we had our baby (we have an 18-month-old daughter).

First time here and I am at my wits end.

 

I have been married to my ADHD husband for almost 2 years now. We were friends for 30 years and engaged for a year. He only recently was diagnosed with ADHD last year and is on medication, though it's not helping.

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD about a month ago. He finally saw a therapist who determined this when I threatened to leave after being fed up with all of his anger and child like behavior. I have a 10 year old boy and 13 year old girl. Both kids dislike being around him, but my daughter really hates him. She has cut herself in the past and had low self esteem. I believe it stems from his anger toward her and lack of being a loving a father. It's taken a toll on all of us. Now that he finally diagnosed he will soon bee prescribed medication, but I feel torn.

today I turn the tables on my bad habits and am going through all my unwanted stuff and getting rid of it.  I'm a little pissed off right now after my wife left for a meeting because when she gets back...she isn't going to like the mess I made. What I'm really angry is having to clean up her mess this time but its good anger and I'm motivated with a renewed spirit and full of energy!  I'm not afraid if she likes it or not!! It will be alright though because I love it that much.