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How does one deal with an ADD spouse who does not show you any empathy.  Thus, for example, when I tell him that I am developing a migraine, he does not respond because he is too busy checking his phone.  Or I text him that I am not feeling well or had a bad day and he ignores it?  I feel like he doesn't care and when I call him on it, he blames it on being busy or having ADD.  I cannot stand not getting any emotional support from my husband. 

Hello my boyfriend A recently broke up with me and i was with him for 2 years we had a normal happy fun loving relationship when he was happy until he got in a mood,mad,stressed,piss,frustrated then it all went out the window.  He constantly reminds me of my past all my wrong doings but this was before him .

Hello All.

I am a woman with ADHD, mild Aspergers and mild learning difficulties (in certain areas) and I recently got out of a relationship with a person who also has Aspergers and ADHD.

Is 'clamming up' during stressful or difficult conversations linked with ADHD or is that just an individual character trait?

For a long, long time our 'conversations' have consisted of me talking and him supposedly listening. Even serious conversations about our ill daughter evokes the same response. Total silence. He will get off his chair and walk round the room or stretch or do something else physical but there is no verbal response. 

My partner and I have been together for the past 5 years.  We are not married but have made steps towards marriage, planning a family, and recently bought a home together.  Our lives have countless personal and financial ties that make our relationships possible end very hard to sort out.  I am not interested in an end to the relationship because I love my partner despite the personal labeling of "I'm selfish."  My partner will put friends and spur of the moment activities before family functions or personal plans.  If a friend or coworker calls for a beer- my partner is out the door in a s

I am tired of dealing with it all.  The emotional infidelity, the messiness, the financial mess.  All of it.  And because of our financial situation, I am stuck.  I go back and forth- not even sure if I love this man.  And when I think I do love him, something happens and I get slapped in the face (emotionally).  If somehow we end up apart, there will be grief over the loss.  18 years of marriage.  The person I thought I would be with for the rest of my life, gone.  Grief for my youngest son who would be devastated if his parents were no longer together.  But then there would be relief.  No

We learned husband has diagnosed ADD 17 years in, I seem ok.  By then we were on our #4 round of counseling and I shared this elsewhere, we are now on our 5th..  I want to share tools we used to cope long before we knew of it.  I had been working part time as an organizer before we married, this was a huge help. Find help if you can't do it.  Also previous to marriage I had been his boss at full time job so I knew him in a different area of our lives.  He went on to a better job and we married a couple years later.

My therapist has just (un-officially) diagnosed my husband as having ADHD. She recognized the signs because her husband has it.

How do I tell him about this diagnosis without hurting his feelings or making him feel like we were ganging up on him in my last therapy session?

I love him, but I think he needs to know why he does what he does so we can start working on dealing with the issues.