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My husband has been diagnosed with ADHD and bipolar disorder.  Two weeks ago he started an intensive outpatient rehab for benzo addiction.  I was the one who told him he needed to go talk to someone.  He kept telling me he didn't  have a problem.  At first he told me he had only been taking them for a two years (I KNEW that wasn't true because he's been taking them for as long as we've been together).  Now I found out it's more like ten years.  He told me he had only taken what his Dr.

I'm new to this forum and so glad to have found it.  My boyfriend of 3 years has ADHD and knows it, however, I'm not sure it was ever medically diagnosed and I know he's never received treatment for it.  He retired from a successful business last April and is progressively getting worse with his symptoms and behaviors.  I've realized that before he retired he had several employees to take care of many of the things he's having such a hard time with now, and he had a schedule which helped, even though he's chronically late to everything.

My household is an ADHD nightmare.  I recognize I've had it all my life, but with the help of a cup of coffee manage to keep it together plus homeschool our 5 kids and everything else - and I do mean EVERYTHING.  It's like I'm the only adult in our house.  He does work 12 hours a day, but when he comes home he STARES at his phone and can't seem to stop.  He watches video after video on youtube about stupid stuff like elderly people falling down escalators.  He can be so irritable and hateful to me and the kids.

As spouses/partners go...aren't the Impulsive and Inattentive/Impulsive types the most difficult to live with?

What are your opinions?

(I know this isn't a contest for "which is worst"...lol...but when reading some posts about whether a NonADHD person should run for the hills when confronted with an ADHD dating partner, I think one of the biggest consideration should be whether the Impulsive element is there and how THAT manifests itself. )

File under "rant"--no obligation to comment. What could be said anyway?

So I have noticed a pattern. Each time I have sex with my ADHD husband, he treats me horribly afterwards and the next day. I have reached out to other spouses of partners with ADHD and they experience this also. Why does this happen? As soon as I let myself be vulnerable he gives me this treatment in return (which makes me feel like a piece of trash) and expects me bounce back emotionally and of course physically. Why would anyone want to continue this cycle and have sex only to be treated this way?

Today was a good day.  We got some things done, even tho I have a very nasty cold.   

How do you let what you have no control over effect you? If you live with a partner whom you share very little commonality with, you probably already know the answer to my question. Or, do you? Blindness is what I suffered with...She is wrong, I am right.

My husband's job for the past almost four years has been as caregiver for his elderly parents.  It began as a four-days per week gig; now he's there full time.  Since starting this arrangement, my husband has almost never called when he is at his parents.  (I'd estimate that he has called fewer than 20 times in the four years.)  HIs mom's health has been deteriorating quite a bit this winter.  I encouraged my husband to get his mom to the doctor (she hadn't even been outside the house n 8 months) to find out what was wrong with her, including whether she'd be eligible for hospice care.