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For everyone here...  I feel that I don't have much to say at this forum any more, since my spouse's issue, as has been diagnosed, is not really add, but actually a personality disorder.

In all honesty, I suspect that is the case with many of the "add" folks being discussed here, and I have so much empathy for you all! 

My own course of action was to release all control over the situation, since that control was only an illusion, at best. I stepped away from the madness and filed for legal separation.

My husband and I have been married for 6 years.  He adopted my 2 kids in 2011.  Like most couples we have had our ups and downs.  Both of us were married previously.  I have 2 kids, he has 1.  Our individual history is very complicated and confusing.  But, basically, I have been in therapy for almost 2 years.  I am working through Complex PTSD, Dissociative Depersonalization Disorder & Major Depression.  My first marriage lasted for 11 years and was abusive.  My kids do remember some of the abuse; they are 13 & 15 today.  My current husband has been supportive to the best of his abi

I know it is common that ADHD individuals are rude. Is a lack of politeness (usage of the magic words please, thank you, and you're welcome, separate from this?

Just wondering if other people have this issue.  My spouse was diagnosed with add as an adolescent and has been on stimulant medication  for many years.  However he does not take it as prescribed.  He regularly takes extra doses, sometimes to get more work done, sometimes due to feelings do depression on top of addiction to the high that comes with abusing stimulants.  To make up for this, he has to skip days. he claims to need days off from his meds in order to relax anyway   Almost every month he runs out of his meds before the refill date, sometimes 5+ days.

This has been scaring me lately and I know it is an ADHD problem, so I'm hoping someone else has dealt with this and found a way to approach their ADHD partner with it gently, but clearly.  Basically, my concern is my husband is sending the message to our children that technology is more important than them.  He eats as quickly as he can to go off to the TV, even while the rest of us are still eating.  He brings his iPad to the table if I ask him to sit through a whole meal and pretty much tunes us out.

I just found this site a few days ago and am alarmed by the number of people whose posts are nearly identical to my situation.

I have been reading these forums over the past few months, as I've been going through several meetings for "neuropsychological assessment", and they have been very enlightening. So, I am here to get some thoughts on what I consider to be a non-diagnosis.

Here is a question I have not seen addressed here, but my apologies if it has been and I missed it.  IF the non-ADHD person is in fact willing to make ALL the adjustments, have "the right mind set", be able to shoulder the majority of the responsibilities without resentment, how in the world do you treat your spouse like an equal and not in a pitying, patronizing way?  I really struggle wit this.  My DH can manage very little, even medicated, so the bulk of everything in our lives is on me.  How can I think of him as an equal when this is the case?