So, I SWEAR my husband has ADHD pretty bad and he not only gets mad at me if i suggest it but he tells me all psychologists are crazy and ADHD is made up. He is 30 years old and should know better than that.
I am beginning to wonder if my husbands incessant threats and reminders that he's leaving as soon as our bankruptcy is over aren't more manipulation. It is very sad to say but I really do think everything he does and says is an attempt to manipulate me. To make himself feel better.
He still says he's leaving..said it very convincingly this past weekend. I basically threw in the towel, took off my rings, and shut down. He acted as if nothing were wrong but I couldn't. I called him out on some deal breaking behaviors and put a boundary and that's when he said he was leaving.
Hi Everyone,
My husband and I have been together for 7 years, and married for almost 4 years. We are both 43 years old and have a large blended family. He and I were both previously married to other spouses once before, and we both have children from those marriages. It's a "yours, mine, and ours" situation... I had 4 children from my first marriage, he had 3 children from his first marriage, and together we have 1 child. So we now have a total of 8 children.
We went out this past Saturday. We went to the zoo and then to a bar for a few hours. We got home about 9:30 and I immediately just wanted to go to bed. H is of course drunk even though he seemed fine most of the ride home. We go zipping past our driveway and before I can ask H where we are going he pulls on the emergency brake and does a 180° turn in the middle of the road right in front of our neighbors who are outside in their driveway. He thinks he is oh-so-cool and I just want to crawl under the seat.
I am so so so fed up with this! I don't think H feels good about himself until he can find fault with something I am doing! I NEVER used to second guess things I did until I met him. Now every time he shows up in the kitchen while I'm trying to get something ready I basically freeze and wait for him to leave because no matter what I do he will tell me it needs to be done differently. I don't think he could find anything wrong with what I was doing a few weeks ago but then he just had to turn the burner down EVER so slightly to feel good about himself.
Hi. My husband is once again struggling mightily with depression and other things. Much of it is situational but it also seems clear to me that my husband feels better and functions better when he's on medications or in therapy and right now he's not doing either, because he chose to stop them.
My husband has been gone for six weeks. In some ways it has been good. In some ways not so good. He has rented a room about 25 minutes away. I met with him today to discuss finances but it turned ugly. He will not face anything he is doing. Honestly, I don't recognize him. He has a swagger and an attitude about him that did not exist before. It is a little creepy to me. He took our son's college money and spent almost all of it. In six weeks.
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