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My wife called me to tell me she wanted us to take on a project I want go into the specifics, but just let me say it was people related, and would definitely call for commitment of time and energy. So as she is relaying all her desires and expectations for me, to me. I couldn't help but think, her we go again....Anyway, I declined, she wasn't very happy about it...So, I would like to run it by you guys...This is my note to her concerning this incident and my request to her about future endeavor she wants us to take on.

Hi.  I'm wondering if anyone else can relate to something that frustrates me very much.  My husband, who has been diagnosed at various points with depression, anxiety, and ADHD, has seen many therapists over the years and has taken medications on and off.  Some of those forays into treatment have been at my encouragement or insistence.  I have occasionally received indirect feedback from the therapists, most notably the person who said I should butt out and the person who said I should come in for sessions with my spouse.

I have had a terrible cold for the last week. I come home from work and collapse, sleep until 10, and go to bed. Its all I can do to go to work. I go to work because I am going to have a hysterectomy in 2 or 3 weeks, scheduled next week and want to have all the sick leave for that. My house is destroyed! If I can't count on him to help out when I am sick, what is going to happen when I'm down for 6 weeks? This all comes two weeks after having the talk about really needing him to step up for me and he wholeheartedly agreed. For me, this is really one of the last nails in the coffin.

I've read about a tendency of people with add to be shut down in the area of sexual intimacy... because of distraction, I guess?

Or maybe it depends more on what other conditions are comorbid with the add?

So, I SWEAR my husband has ADHD pretty bad and he not only gets mad at me if i suggest it but he tells me all psychologists are crazy and ADHD is made up. He is 30 years old and should know better than that.

 

I am beginning to wonder if my husbands incessant threats and reminders that he's leaving as soon as our bankruptcy is over aren't more manipulation. It is very sad to say but I really do think everything he does and says is an attempt to manipulate me. To make himself feel better. 

He still says he's leaving..said it very convincingly this past weekend. I basically threw in the towel, took off my rings, and shut down. He acted as if nothing were wrong but I couldn't. I called him out on some deal breaking behaviors and put a boundary and that's when he said he was leaving. 

Hi Everyone,

 

I need advice on what to do before the book arrives. I stumbled across this site out of pure frustration and feelings of total resentment toward my ADHD husband. I am up, alone, caring for our four month old who is sick. This is our third child. All day long the baby cried or nursed. My husband worked from home today. Not once did he ask to help. He actually asked me "What's for lunch"? And at dinner time, when I asked if he could make dinner he listed the different things he had to do for work first. He's been working 60+ hour weeks.

 

My husband and I have been together for 7 years, and married for almost 4 years. We are both 43 years old and have a large blended family. He and I were both previously married to other spouses once before, and we both have children from those marriages. It's a "yours, mine, and ours" situation... I had 4 children from my first marriage, he had 3 children from his first marriage, and together we have 1 child. So we now have a total of 8 children.