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Please help.

Another holiday season is coming up and I find myself in the same frustration.  Dh wants to be part of the "help" but only wants to do things at the spur of the moment, nothing planned, no one can suggest or tell him what needs to be done, he wants to do only what looks like fun to him.  Then the delight for him is not is doing and creating and working together but rather to "get credit" from the crowd when they come.

I have been going through a lot with my DH.I love him a lot and can't do with out him.He came in to my life and really showed me a different world out here.The reality step in our lives where i have my kids,work,life.His acceptance towards this has been very difficult meaning he has been step aside from the equation of my personal conduct responsibilities home.He feels left out,abandoned,and completely ignored for this entire time we are together 3 yrs plus now..

I have posted in a forum before and got a lot of negative replays saying I should run and not out up with him, etc. So I'm a bit hesitant of posting this. 

the guy I am with has extremely bad ADHD. The saddest part is, that he has never been taught how to properly deal with it. He was on pills for it which were ones that also dealt with his anxiety and depression. He went off of his pills though and hasn't been as up and down since he stopped them. 

Hello.  I've never posted here before but I've been reading on this site and others for the last couple of years about ADD/ADHD and it's effects on marriage.  I even have the book.  My husband is undiagnosed but has several signs of ADHD.  Unorganized, speed driven, easily distracted. He said this morning that he wants a divorce.  We have been married for over 6 years.  We are a second marriage with a blended family, children ages 20-30 with four grandchildren from his children.  His struggle with me is that he doesn't feel like that I trust him or that I know him.

I am a 59 year old man, My spouse of 15 years has ADD. I love my wife. She is intelligent, creative, hard working, has a great sense of humor and is very attractive. We met 17 years ago. She has 2 children; a 31 year old daughter who is happily married and lives with her husband in Atlanta and a 23 year old son, who also has ADD and is currently living with us.  When we married, my wife who was previously married had been divorced for about 3 years.

I'm a 35 year old non ADHD wife married to my 41 year old husband, for the past 15 years. We have 5 children 2-16. The past 15 years have been a nightmare. My husband was diagnosed, but refused medication. No drug or alcohol use ever on either of our parts. No cheating in my end ever. He has never been caught.

He's a compulsive liar. Lies about everything and daily.

Says he knows he does bad things but cant stop doing them

he foreclosed on our home. I had NO idea until the sheriff served me papers. 

Hi. Im in my early 20's & have been dating a girl with ADHD. At first I didnt know she had ADHD, but different tendencies kept popping up so I researched the symptoms & realized she had it. She's also since admitted to having it to me. I saw a lot of good in her & I thought a lot of people gave up on her early in life because of something she did not control, so I promised myself I would at least improve her life , even if I eventually lose interest in this relationship. 

I am a newlywed and My husband has adult ADHD, at least that's what we think since he was diagnosed as a child-- reading the book ADHD and it's effects on marriage, almost every page of that book has almost mirrored my own life. Let's just say I get a lot of anxiety reading this book. My husband has not been diagnosed with it as an adult because he has never gone to see a doctor and talk to them about it. And now that we have health insurance finally, he still is doing what he wants to do, at his own pace--meaning getting care for himself.