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If my bf takes something I am saying as criticism, the focus turns from the issue I brought up and my feelings about it to his feelings of being criticized and telling me how wrong I am. He has a situation-specific rationalization for everything he does, but sometimes he is the first to criticize me if he thinks I am affecting his time or money. Then if my feelings disagree with his intentions or recollection of what happened, my feelings are wrong.

My (suspected) ADD husband is so eager to impress and please everyone, and can charm himself out of (or into) any situation.  But when it comes to me, it feels like he doesn't care at all.  He has no interest in anything I say, and will actually walk away from me when I am in the middle of telling him something.  He has, on occasion even walked out of the house while I was in mid-sentence.  Today he actually closed the door of the room he was in, so I could not talk to him from the next room.

We had been planning to take a vacation together in the summer, but he said he wanted to wait until November so he could have more time off. November was my thirtieth birthday, so I thought that would be perfect to celebrate. In October, I told him to give me his share of the money for the vacation and after much prodding, he did. I told him if he didn’t want to go, he didn’t have to. He told me he’d give me the money after he asked for the time off.

This is my first post. I'm hopeful to feel support by reaching out like this. 

Hello friends,

I am new to this site, so I've not yet found much in the way of the emotional impact from an ADHDer's perspective. Feel free to point me the way.

I just found this forum and I'm reading things for the first time that sound exactly like my marriage. My husband is ADHD, very intelligent, highly successful businessman. We have one adopted daughter age 10 with some emotional issues and my husbands daughter is a jr in high school and with us half the time. We have been married 10 years. Husband is cold, distant, constantly telling to "get out of his f-ing business", defensive, etc etc etc. He can't put his cell phone down even on our "date nights" and pays all his attention to his bio daughter and neglects me and our younger daughter.

I'm very frustrated today and seems the frustration waxes and wanes as far as I am able to keep track of everything as I am just one person.  But Im floundering, my job is not 100% my home is not given 100% and my kids dont always get it because Im doing EVERYTHING ELSE!

Background:

Me: Type A personality, driven, fairly successful.   Committed Christian.

Went from full time to part time (well70%) when #2 was born because I wanted more time with kids but also because I COULD BOT handle home and ds working full time. largely due to DH

After finding the guts to finally end things with my spouse i feel the same way even after the separation.The loneliness is the same there is no different feeling where i thought that i would feel extra lonely.For the 3 years of struggling with the marriage i resorted in ending the abuse finally.

Today, for the first time I am publicly facing what I have suspected for years.  We just celebrated out 9th anniversary but I feel like my heart has gone to sleep.

I am a Non-ADHD spouse.  My story is long and my need for support great.  We made a doctor's appointment a couple of years ago to talk about the possibility

of my spouse having some type of ADHD. ( I had done some research on ADHD and come to understand that perhaps I was not going crazy and the doctor

Love is something that i have never felt for a long time while being in this relationship with my Ex.I can't remember when was the last time he looked at me with those loving eyes and said i love you hun!.Today i love him and probably will for a while until i meet someone else.He tore me to pieces,he ruined my every Skye ability to trust another man again.I was, we was very much in love at first and it was the most amazing feeling of my life.After a few weeks or so things started getting very comfy for him and he started dominating me,controlling me,telling me who to talk to, who to be with