My bf has adhd and im very interested in gettig him diagnosed. If anyone know a good psychiatrist pls advise me. Thank you so much!!!
Short version of my story goes like this:
My husband had ADHD, but he coped with it extremely well and made it work for him. He got a different job, and during a long night working on a project (spreadsheet stuff - not ADHD friendly) a friend, who also had ADHD, offered him adderall to "make it work." It worked incredibly well, but instead of seeking professional help, he started self medicating. Fast forward almost a year. My kids and I moved out when his adderall habit reached 200 mg daily and he lost control of his anger.
I will try not to ramble and for this to have some sort of flow, but I can not promise anything. Im 31 years old and recently (within) 2 weeks dx with ADHD-combined type. At first I thought it would be a relief to finally know "what was wrong with me", but it has only added to my stress.
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Hi All,
My boyfriend has been my best friend for 7 years, and we have been dating for over 2 years. We have a lot in common and care about each other deeply. When it comes to communication, not only are we stuck, it devolves into feelings being continually hurt on both sides. We can't seem to break through, and his reactions keep us stuck in the cycle.
I don't even know what just hit me. My husband and I sat down to listen to Session 3 of the couples seminar, and we were discussing our worksheets beforehand. During our anger worksheets discussion, I said that I answered one of the questions according to my resentment because I don't really have anger. He asked me what I was resentful for. Normally I would not answer because in the last 6-8 weeks, he has been very irritable, and little things set him off. But I figured--hey, we're having a nice honest talk, so I will try to explain.
I have been married for one year to me ADHD spouse. He was just recently diagnosed, but refuses to treat because he says the military won't allow it. Our therapist called bs on that, but he still thinks he has it under control. To make matters worse, his daughter is super ADHD with a number of other issues that he refuses to address. I have patience for one, but not both. The only time we ever argue is when she is with us. Up until about 3 months ago that was only sporadically, but now she lives with us full time and it is a huge challenge for me to balance it all.
Hi. I'm new here, but I'm totally in. I've been married to a woman with undiagnosed ADHD for 13 years now with 6 kids. My wife just got officially diagnosed a few weeks ago, after I had basically given up on "my plight" as a man condemned to live in "trash can". This is how I often felt. That feeling of giving in was good in a way, but anger and resentment always seems to creep back at some point.
I was 20 when I met this wonderful 26 year old woman that was pretty, divorced, had a child, and I thought everything was great about her. During early portions of the relationship I didn't notice things about her behavior right away but I was botheredby certain things such as having a conversation and she quickly got side tracked, and during arguments she would twist my words and said that I said things that I never said.
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