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It's been over a year since I left my ADHD/psychopathic ex. He married less than a year after we split up, and he and new wife are moving soon, out of state. I actually spoke to her a few days ago -- she is very nice and probably as unsuspecting as I was. Her former passed away, and I felt sorry for what she is going to be facing, sooner or later. When I saw him today from a distance, there was no emotion. He had been so abusive. After splitting up, I used to tremble. I had to go to counseling for anxiety. I lost every shred of self-confidence I had.

I Googled "husband takes me for granted".  I found this article that exactly tells what is going on in my marriage.

http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/NEWSLETTER%20ARTICLES/women_tak...

What was just said to me was just too good not to share.  My very-soon-to-be-ex who did something unprovoked and intentionally very hurtful tonight actually had the audacity to say to me after I got upset and was in a bad mood that I should be aware of how my being upset is MAKING HIM FEEL and that I should be ashamed of WHAT I AM DOING.  This stuff just CANNOT be made up.  At moments like these it sometimes hard to accept that this is really happening.  That someone is actually thinking and feeling such ridiculous things.  I just can't even believe it.  This can't possibly be my life.  Thi

I am in a marriage with someone with ADHD. 

This is the first time I've ever written in a forum about this.

I've read through hundreds of the stories here and felt like I've had read about my life for the last 10 years.

The last two days I have driven around town looking for an apartment for my son and I to move into because I (and my anxiety) can no longer take living with my ADD husband. He is undiagnosed but if he does not have ADD/ADHD...then he must have some high functioning autism.  I'm not quick to "internet diagnose"...but the stories on this forum are wayyyyyy too familiar.

As I sit here, I'm actually crying. The last two weeks..everything changed. Before these two weeks, we were so happy...

I was in a committed realtionship for two years to the most amazing individual i have ever met she was smart funny beautiful caring everything i wanted in a partner. one wednesday (78 days ago) i came home and found her bags packed :-( i was a mess! yes we were having problems but i didnt think they where this big... she told me she was just burnt out and that she still loved me but just couldnt see a future with me i was/am heartbroken here is the women i was planning to marry saying we didnt have a future. she says it was because of my controlling and codependent behaviour.

I have been with my husband for the past 10 years. We have been married for the past 3. Ever since we got married, the neglect and childish behavior has been too much for me to deal with. Compounded with his substance abuse problems and I have to ask myself, what am I getting out of this relationship. I have a history of my own substance abuse problems and I have the residual low self-esteem that goes with it. After my own treatment and therapy to avoid relapse, I am getting better.

My ADD husband and I have had a very rock relationship for a few years now. In the past, I've been the one to arrange for us to see therapists to try and work on our marriage. A few months ago I told him that it was now his turn to set up an appointment for us to get some counseling -- that I wasn't going to be responsible for it again. He promised me that he would, but nothing has happened. I've brought it up several times, but he has always responded that he doesn't have any time to make calls or that he is too busy with work right now.

Only your thoughts can endanger your happiness. Telling yourself a miserable mental story about your circumstances creates suffering. Telling yourself a more positive and grateful story, studies show, increases happiness.

I am the somewhat obsessive spouse of ADD husband. I am trying very hard to grow out of the venting, complaining, unhappy person I have become. Here is what I am trying to learn and how I am trying to change my thoughts: