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Hello - I am new and here is my story:

I am living with a man that I am totally in love with - we have been together for over 2 years, and lived together for almost 1 year.  We both have great jobs and many hobbies.  He has suffered from ADD his whole life, but only in the last year or so has he been interested in looking for a 'solution'.  Our relationship has been full of hardships, fights, and disagreements on everything from sex to commitment, but only in the last few weeks have we both agreed that my partners ADD has been a catalyst for all of the issues we have had.   

Hi.  Here are some things I've done that have helped me and some ways I've interacted differently with my husband lately that seem to have been improvements.

1) Doing fun things on my own. I've been watching movies on DVD from the library and watching things on TV that I like.

2) Buying a few things for myself.  I got a cellphone (yep, my first one; just for emergencies, really, but still).  I also bought an iPod shuffle to keep me distracted during an upcoming flight; I'm a fearful flyer.

Hello all, I am married to my husband for 8 years and have recently dicovered that he is most likely ADD. I had been having cognitive behavioural therapy to deal with my regular feelings of worthlessness. I searched all through my past to find aswers and then one day I stumbled across an article entitled something like 'living with someone with ADHD' and it was like it had been written about my husband.

Do any of you non-ADDers feel like your whole personality is having to change to live with your ADDer?  I have been dealing with this for over 30 years.  Not only am I on Xanax, Ambien, and Celexa, but who I am is completely different than who I used to be.  I know most of you are laughing saying IT'S THE DRUGS GOOFY!, but it isn't.  We all know that "controlling our emotions" is essential in our marriage, but I have begun to avoid my husband because I don't WANT to have to control my emotions.  I used to be extremely out-going, but lately I have become the "quiet one" in m

I haven't posted on here for a few months, since before hubby got his prescription for methylphenidate.  He's on a time-release form and takes it once in the morning.

There has been a significant difference in his behavior-- not like night and day-- but significant.   It is easier to get his attention when I want to speak to him, he is more apt to listen, and he gets more done.  Our son notices it too.  He is happy that his dad actually hears and pays attention better.

Just found this site and I am horrified at the stories of lying, cheating and infidelity.  I have dated a man for over a year but recently found some activity on his computer like you all - hookup sites, texting, etc. Of course denying it was nothing or "just looking."  Still don't believe that.

Communication is a huge issue for those with ADHD, and it definitely is with my husband. Part is probably due to the way he was raised, too. His mom and dad are horrible at talking to one another.

Salutations,

Hello.  I wanted to let the people in the Northwest know about an ADHD relationship one day seminar being hosted by ADD Resources 4/13.  http://addresources.org/  Keynote speaker is the comedian from TotallyADD.com and the PBS shows ADD and Loving It, and ADD and Mastering It.  His wife will also be participating.  I'm hoping it will be a good introduction for my ADHD spouse on just how impacted our relationship is by his symptoms, and my reactions to them of course.

After reading many of these threads, it seems a common theme among us "nons" married to ADHD spouses is "the breaking point". It may be after 3 years or 30 years. It could be their diagnosis, finding this site, or a particular incident that gets us to this point. But, it seems like we all have a moment when, after years of being hopeful and thinking it will get better, we realize that this is our life. They won't change. ANd you have to decide if you can live with that or not.